Feeling lonely

[Ribbon86]

Hey
Need to vent to someone , long story short been married 4 years together 12 had many ups and downs mostly downs :-(.
Just spoke to h to tell him how Unhappy I am he’s not someone I can speak to if he doesn’t like what I’m saying I’m talking shite or starts being nasty . Basically he said I either put up with it or leave I’m so hurt by him ( I shouldn’t be surprised if I’m honest he’s always really nasty ) I can’t help but think he’ll understand and be a bit more sensitive . Any advice would be much appreciated

We're here! Don't feel lonely.

If he can't communicate and is nasty towards you, it's not going to work

You don't want decades more of this, it's your precious life

LanguidLobster Thank you I don’t know why I’m so stupid letting him away with it . I bloody cry doing the dishes and stuff it’s horrible the nasty things he says

Are there any children involved? He doesn't exactly sound very nice...

It's a bit trite to say but are there people you can talk to? He can't get away with the way he speaks to you.

Stay strong and you can always talk here.

Cuddle up tonight with a nice drink or music or whatever you find comforting and start to seriously evaluate it tomorrow :)

Have a look on FB for the CHUMns Group

Yeah 3 children we have a joint mortgage lots of responsibilities, I could honestly tell him I was thinking of ending my life ( I’m not ) but he’d yell at me and tell me I’m talking shite yet I still try with him ...... what the hell is wrong with me ? Mulberry72 I don’t have Facebook but thanks anyway x

Currently sleeping on the couch I can’t bear to be near him he clearly doesn’t care though as he hasn’t bothered coming to check where i am

He couldn't love you, could he, if he speaks to you like that? Is it worth staying with him if he makes you so miserable? Life isn't supposed to be like that, and God knows what effect it's having on those DC

My dc never hear anything I act normal around them I try my best for them I just don’t know what to do the hurt is unbelievable I don’t know how much longer I can put a brave face on . He’s going away for work in a couple of weeks I’m hoping the break will give me a chance to recharge and get myself back I hate even looking in the mirror I’m not me anymore

For tonight you're better off on the couch, just wrap up warm.

Relationships board is brilliant for sound advice about leaving, sounds like you want to, and have a little time to start looking into practicalities in 2 weeks time when he's away. Just take care of yourself

LanguidLobster Thank you you don’t realise how much your kind words and advice are helping right now . I feel pathetic just can’t get my head around how he can be so nasty when I’m such a caring person x