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If you don't put in the effort, you're only cheating yourself!

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SongsFromTheWar · 11/10/2018 23:48

I feel a bit silly creating this thread but I am going to go ahead and do it anyway.

Backstory is, as a child I learned to play the piano. I never worked hard but got to a decent standard. Sight reading music was another story though; you see, that takes practice, which is something I scarcely did.

Week after week I'd be shouted at by my incredible strict piano teacher for the fact I didn't practice. She nagged & moaned at me like there was no tomorrow.

I stopped lessons aged 15 and gradually as the years passed, I really came to regret not working harder. I moved overseas with my (Forces) husband and I always wished I could one day take up lessons again but with frequent house moves and not much disposable cash, getting a piano wasn't an option let alone paying for lessons.

Anyway, aged 29, I bought a second hand electric piano and I finally started lessons again. Initially with a local teacher who was awful. My old piano teacher from my home town found out I had taken up piano again and contacted me. She's retired, in her 70s or early 80s. I told her about my hopeless teacher and she told me she'd rather teach me over the phone/ Skype than have me pay this man. She said the only payment she would need would be to see my succeed and that she wouldn't accept any money.

Fast forward a year and life juggling two small children and keeping on top of things when DH is often deployed for long spells is testing and exhausting. It would be so easy to not be able to find the time to practice and I truly am someone who has quit and dropped out of many things but there is one thing that gets me off the sofa and onto the piano after a long tiring day and that's the fact that, if I don't, I'm only cheating myself. It'll be me who will once again look back and regret not trying, regret not putting in the effort. After a year of hard work I am now really seeing huge improvements and seeing that if I continue to be diligent with this, I can really fulfil my potential.

I just wanted to post this because, all to often in life, (especially mums with young children) we become so embroiled in all of our responsibilities. We have goals but it is just so difficult to see them through. I just hoped that maybe reading this would inspire someone and hopefully give them that belief that even with life being hectic & chaotic. Even with the exhaustion of everyday parenting and everything that entails, it is still possible to accomplish your goals.

Yes, this goal may seem small or insignificant to some but it's huge to me. Not only am I accomplishing an ambition of mine but I'm also teaching my children that learning is a lifelong journey. What a great lesson for them to learn.

It's never to late Smile

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SongsFromTheWar · 12/10/2018 11:06

Well this didn't go down too well 😂

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TanteRose · 12/10/2018 11:15

Well done OP!
It is certainly satisfying to see progress in something. FlowersSmile
Is your old piano teacher still as strict?

FoulMouthedMotherFigure · 12/10/2018 11:17

^^

I "get" you, Songs. I'm currently self-studying for a GCSE in a subject I couldn't be arsed to pursue to completion 40 years ago, and also gave up on a second attempt at it 35 years ago.

Isn't the sense of achievement you feel just incredible - when, in spite of all the other demands upon your time and mental energy, you grasp a difficult concept, or get a piece of homework back with a high mark, or finally succeed in doing a complicated calculation in one go without referring back to the textbook at every step!

Can I book you to play the piano at my celebration party next August if when I pass my GCSE? I'll hand you the sheet music at the last possible moment, of course! Grin

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Dandybelle · 12/10/2018 11:47

Well done OP. I bet your piano teacher is so proud that you decided to take it up again.

I've just enrolled myself to start a law degree in Feb. I've been wanting to do it for a while but kept putting it off as felt it wasn't the right time. As it is, it's probably still not the right time as I'm due DC2 in November and will be up to my eyes in it but I just figured if I don't start it now I never will. Life will always be there to get in the way!

TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/10/2018 11:56

Looking at it another way, perhaps if your piano teacher had been more inspiring and less nagging in the first place, you wouldn't have dropped out. Out of my four, the one that went furthest with his music had the most enthusiastic, charismatic teacher. I definitely think if your kids are unenthusiastic it is worth looking for a different teacher.

SongsFromTheWar · 12/10/2018 17:39

TanteRose thank you. She's an incredibly good teacher but nothing infuriates her like a pupil not practicing. Luckily, I practice now so don't see that side of her anymore Grin

FoulMouthed best of luck with your GCSE! Dates in my diary for your celebration party Grin

Good luck with the law degree Dandy! There will always be a reason not to study but sometimes you just have to make a decision to go for it! I'm sure you'll do great!

Tinky You May be right in what you're saying there. I may have done better at that stage with a different teacher. Although my mum also nagged me every. single. day. to practice so it's probably more likely my mum was what put me off.

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