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LostInOxfordshire · 11/10/2018 18:31

my ex and I are divorcing and have lived separately for 7 months.

In July 2017, I found out she was having an affair with a neighbour, they said it was over, but they kept in contact and after 7 months of living in the same home, a few arguments and a physical altercation, I couldn't take it anymore and moved into rented accommodation. That was April 2018.

Due to all the stress, I lost my employment aswell in August 2018. I just haven't been able to concentrate on work. I'm trying my best to find employment and have had a few interviews.

I've continued to see our son and contribute 50/50. But she is now emailing that she feels unsafe/threatened and I should "seriously consider our sons welfare" when responding to her financial split offer. This also coincides with a new "friend" spending nights at our property (on some days with our son and his daughter).

She's also demanding a switch of weekends as it works better for when the new guy has his daughter, so they can all spend weekends together. But she says she won't guarantee I see my son on Fathers day, won't alternate my sons birthdays and weekends, and also Xmas.

So,
where do I stand? We have both been hurt emotionally and physically, Our son has never been hurt, his school reports are great. She's demanding more than 50/50 split of assets, I'm unemployed, and she won't agree to alternating our son's birthday's or xmas day's

I'm so worried and alone.

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bluejelly · 11/10/2018 18:45

I'm sorry I have no great advice, but just wanted to send my support.
Have you spoken to a solicitor? Also a counsellor to help you process what has happened?

LostInOxfordshire · 11/10/2018 19:09

Thanks bluejelly, I’ve spoken a solicitor on the financials, the threat of loosing joint custody is new, and will speak to a solicitor.

I think this will end up at court. I’d just like to hear from others on what to expect.

Yes I’ve had therapy but there are days when I’m really worried about the future.

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