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MyMagicStars · 10/10/2018 15:37

DD4 is 21 and at uni, in her second year. She's living with three others in a house not too far from the uni. She gets on well with all of them, but has an issue with one- he spends all day talking really loudly on his phone to another friend (shouting), and the house is tiny with thin walls, so DD is always able to hear, even with her headphones in. The other flatmate has commented on it, and the fourth is a medic student who is usually at uni during the day, or with his partner.
DD went downstairs to ask Flatmate to be quiet, and just got told "it's 3pm, go to the library if you want to work," so is a bit upset, particularly after having helped him with something this morning. She and the other flatmates have commented on the noise before, but it hasn't stopped- the neighbours have also come over and said they can hear this boy talking loudly through the walls and been woken up by him coming back on nights out, etc.
Does anyone have any advice? DD4 has anxiety and is struggling with her physical health currently, and is finding this quite upsetting, as well as distracting her from working. She does use the library a lot, but it's busy and big and she likes being able to work in her bedroom, given she pays rent and has every right. She doesn't ring me often at uni, but has just rung me sounding very down. The same flatmate has also made some unkind comments about DD's boyfriend- and complains if he is woken up at about 11am by anyone! She has to stay until July, but is starting to quietly ask around now for anyone also planning to move into a new house for third year- the current house agreed to decide at Christmas if they were going to stay on.

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Finfintytint · 10/10/2018 15:42

Is there anything in the contracts about anti social behaviour? She could report to the landlord if so.

MyMagicStars · 10/10/2018 15:45

I think she's worried about making him worse and aggressive towards her- they have to stay there until July/June. I know she's grown up but she's going through a lot anyway and this feels so unnecessary and selfish Sad.

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Finfintytint · 10/10/2018 15:49

Does the uni have a welfare officer? Maybe they could help her divise some coping strategies.
Sounds like she is not the only one affected. I know its easy for me to say but i would challenge him constantly. He could get evicted for his actions.

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MyMagicStars · 10/10/2018 16:35

She's got an appointment with Student Services in the next two weeks- I just hope this calms down. I think he's very self-absorbed- apparently there's always a new drama, and it's not helping DD's mental health to come home and always be on edge. Thanks for your help x

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MyMagicStars · 10/10/2018 19:06

Bump

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AwaAnBileYeHeid · 10/10/2018 20:07

https://www.alldeal.co.uk/101b-black-mini-portable-wifi-24g-signal-isolator-coverage-510-metersp141785.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIus3vu8j83QIVjeJ3Ch3RNwtbEAQYASABEgII_MvD_BwE

She needs to invest in one of these and keep using it when his calls get too long and loud. He'll not know what's happening. The range is small but large enough to cut his calls off in the house and not affect the neighbours.

Screw being nice. Go sneaky.

MyMagicStars · 10/10/2018 20:22

I'll send her the link- only worry is if she'll need to use the internet for study, etc. Thanks- I've never seen one of these before.

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AwaAnBileYeHeid · 11/10/2018 00:52

She'll be able to deactivate it when douche flatware is off the phone. It can be switched on and off when needed.

AwaAnBileYeHeid · 11/10/2018 00:53

Flatmate not flatware 😂

SpoonBlender · 11/10/2018 01:03

I was going to suggest a low-tech approach with an airhorn whenever he got on the blower (haha!), but I'm always a fan of high tech answers too. To disrupt a phone call that would only need to be switched on for a few seconds, you wouldn't leave it on all the time.

She'd maybe want the mobile phone signal isolator though, from the sidebar on the right. The linked one disrupts wifi. Eh, maybe both.

AwaAnBileYeHeid · 11/10/2018 11:01

Most iPhones these days have Wi-fi calling so his calls might be going through the WiFi and disconnecting the phone signal may not be enough.

If not then deffo interrupting his loud calls constantly by being noisy. After all, what could he say? He's said if your DD wants peace and quiet then she can go to the library? Well he could go literally anywhere else.

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