So my husband and I have been together for a good 12 years and we have three beautiful kids, two boys and a girl. We are young parents. Very recently we decided to pack up and move to the countryside for a better way of life for us and the kids. Where we were before, we worked ridiculous hours and very rarely saw each other let alone spent time as a family. We were dreaming of owning our own home but could never get quite enough together for a deposit. So we asked his mother to go guarantor and she flat out said no. So after 7 years of renting we decided to move out bush and live a carefree life. MIL hated the idea. From the word get go, she made it clear that she blamed me for his choice to leave, because I don't appreciate how hard he works etc. The last six months have been hell. Two weeks before we moved, she called in tears saying the doctor had put her on anti depressants because she considered driving into a tree. She cried at me that it was all my fault. Then as another kick in the guts, she has spat horrible comments out that she's suing us for custody of "her" kids. She's their grandmother. We ended up having a huge argument because she came into our home and tried to take control of our kids and she told the youngest boy to get out of the photo she was taking of the newborn. Since then she only calls my husband and asks him to arrange dinner dates because he won't say no to her! She told as many locals as she could last week when she was up, that I wasn't a fit mother and she should have custody. Husband came home tonight and said his mother wanted to take the boys for a week in the school holidays and I flat out said no. For two reasons. She doesn't respect me enough to call and ask, she didn't even ring for my birthday! & two, she's told me how suicidal she is! AIBU in worrying that she won't bring them back or worse she'll forget her meds and end up driving herself and my kids into a ditch?? Hubby says not to worry about her anymore, but it's hard when he won't stick up for me either!! She's turning into a nasty cranky old lady and it's getting toxic. How do i tell my husband that if she doesnt back off or he start sticking up for me, that im just going to leave? She's getting in the way of our marriage and upbringing of the kids!