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Do you enjoy being a mum?

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Helmlover · 08/10/2018 20:15

Just been looking through a recent thread on MN detailing the sacrifices parents have made for their kids and I’m shocked by the negative tone and the regret some mothers have openly expressed about ever having children.

So it’s got me thinking..do you actually enjoy being a mum and honestly, if you could go back in time, would you have had children, knowing what you know now?

Personally I don’t have children of my own so I can’t answer these questions, but I’m hoping to one day..

OP posts:

Zampa · 08/10/2018 20:18

I enjoy being a Mum but it doesn't mean I don't miss the things that I could do when I was child free.

I currently have a very serious chest infection and I'm unable to properly rest due to my children needing me. I would love to spend the week in bed recovering but can't. Still wouldn't send them back though!

Youaremysunshine2017 · 08/10/2018 20:19

I love it. There's tough days don't get me wrong but love how my life is now and how it's changed me as a person and of course I idolise my child too.

Yewnicorn · 08/10/2018 20:19

75% of the time

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ChoudeBruxelles · 08/10/2018 20:20

Yes I enjoy it but it’s bloody hard work at times and the things which are hard change as they get older so you never really nail it

Charley50 · 08/10/2018 20:23

I do enjoy being a mum but wish I had chosen my DS dad more carefully. Having said that, I wouldn't change my actual DS to a different one, and I have never said to him what I said above.

Fatted · 08/10/2018 20:24

Yes I do enjoy being a mum and yes I would always still have my children. But I do also miss my old life. And I did grieve for the woman I used to be.

Having children does fundamentally change you as a person in ways that you cannot possibly fathom until you are there. Physically pregnancy broke me. Mentally it messed me up (I had PND with my eldest). Being a mum has made me a happier and more confident person. But it's taken going through the challenges and bad times to get me there.

SoyDora · 08/10/2018 20:26

Yes I love it and yes, I’d have them again in a heartbeat.
Still miss aspects of my former life though!

NotUmbongoUnchained · 08/10/2018 20:26

Being a mum has made me such a better person. There is honestly no love like it.
I went through a phase of hating it, but then realised it was because i wasn't suited to being a stay at home mum. Going back to work was the best thing I did and now I absolutely adore my life and my kids.

Zoflorabore · 08/10/2018 20:26

I was never very maternal and when I was a little girl I hated dolls and playing mum etc but having my 2dc has been the best thing I've ever done.
Ds has AS so it's not been easy but I know him inside out and upside down so take each day as it comes. Dd is 8 years younger than him ( she is 7 and he is 15 ) and having a big age gap was tough but I wouldn't change a thing

DwangelaForever · 08/10/2018 20:27

The only thing I miss about my life pre kids is being able to do things spontaneously without arranging a babysitter, I miss city breaks, spa breaks and just random last minute nights at the cinema!

Thatstheendofmytether · 08/10/2018 20:28

I adore my kids they are my life, really don't get anytime alone as my youngest who will be 5 next month has terrible separation anxiety and once he has done a day at school that seems to be about as much being away from me as he can take.
I became a mum quite young and sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if I hadn't had children. We have a good life, but I do wish I had waited until I had a good earning career. I gave up on that after my first stupidly. That's the only thing I regret because I rrally wamt to give them an amazing life with a big house and fancy holidays etc, but then the job I do means I am at home with my kids all the time, the same as my mum was with us, and I loved that.

Oddcat · 08/10/2018 20:32

No , I don't enjoy it and if I could turn the clock back I would do things very differently. It's been years of horrible , crippling worry and upset .

PoxAlert · 08/10/2018 20:32

I adore it but I'd fucking love a lie in and a weekend doing whatever I wanted.

Some days I remember our pre-child weekends.

Seem so alien now. Basically there was nothing we had to do. Imagine that!

Redgreencoverplant · 08/10/2018 20:32

I love it :) I didn't for the first year but now it is amazing. The only thing I miss is Sunday afternoons watching Poirot but those days will return. DS is 2.5 now but before I know it he will be off out with his friends on the weekend and I will have Poirot back. I am enjoying all the fun activities you get to do with little children for now :)

elliejjtiny · 08/10/2018 20:32

Yes for the most part. Although today 2 of mine have a tummy bug, it's really grim and I'm so tired.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 08/10/2018 20:35

Yes but I miss sleep, that knackeredness can cloud the days sometimes

3in4years · 08/10/2018 20:37

Immensely.

museumum · 08/10/2018 20:37

Yes. I love it. I have one child and still work and do hobbies. Even still the relentless responsibility sometimes weighs me down.

With 2-3 children or as a sahm I would have struggled I think.

Redgreencoverplant · 08/10/2018 20:38

I agree museum I think I enjoy it so much because one DC isn't overwhelming :)

SausageSimon · 08/10/2018 20:38

I absolutely love it despite it being the hardest most draining thing I have experienced. But being a parent has made me extremely happy

LardLizard · 08/10/2018 20:41

I love it

It’s all the all stuff like chores dinner homework etc that’s the pain

But even if you don’t have kids still have chores n dinner to make n tidy away etc
Ok not as much
But it’s not like you don’t have anything to do

DragonGoby · 08/10/2018 20:42

I have three DC, I love being a mum and I wouldn’t change a thing. It is hard and tiring but for me the alternative (not having kids) would have been a far harder road.

DarwinLoves · 08/10/2018 20:44

Adore my children, they are the funniest people. It's hard work sometimes but the good times far outweigh the bad.

I think, sometimes, I have a slightly different outlook than some as, sadly, our eldest daughter died 8 years ago. It changed my entire outlook on life.

Don't get me wrong though, I do sometimes breathe a sigh of relief at bedtime!

OatsBeansBarley · 08/10/2018 20:47

Yes and I wish I'd started earlier.

PoxAlert · 08/10/2018 20:48

I also only have one and I think that's what really helps keep me feeling balanced.

My DH is very hands on too so we both get plenty of chances to do our own thing but we equally love doing things as a 3.

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