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WWYD re ex boss

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Biancadelriosback · 07/10/2018 13:58

My old boss was a bit of a nightmare. She loved her 'old team' so when they moved on to new jobs and we came in, she hated us. Always told us about the "dream team" and how she wished they still worked there etc. I had years of experience in the industry and had been a mid level manager elsewhere but had taken a step back when I had DS as the hours were crazy and I couldn't commit like I had previously. This meant taking a huge paycut but DH and I agreed it was worth it for the family life. She used to bring this up a lot in front of my colleagues, but the way she used to say it was as if I couldn't still be a manager because I wasn't good enough. She discussed my wage with a few co-workers too which I was furious at.
Anyways, it all came to a head (loads more stuff) and I quit citing her as the reason. I've now changed industry all together but still cross paths with some of my old clients. Some of these have been off with me since but I just assumed that it was unrelated.

So recently a friend of mine took a job working at my old place, in my old role. She told me that my manager still slags me off and blames loads of stuff on me...stuff which literally happened after I left! Ex boss doesn't know my friend knows me. Ex boss also told lots of my ex clients that I fucked up their accounts and covered my back, told some I was let go, told one I hadn't even started working on their account when in truth it was almost complete when I left and she lost/deleted the file.

I think this explains why some are being off with me and are less trusting of me now. I'm annoyed that my reputation is being bashed. I'm annoyed that she clearly holds a grudge. I'm annoyed that she is lying about me.

WWYD? I want to go into her work and have it out, but I know that's unprofessional...but then she isn't acting professional and I want to try and salvage my reputation...

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nakaji · 07/10/2018 14:03

If it was threatening my career I’d see a solicitor with a view to suing for slander. I would want an apology and retraction from her or something in writing that confirms that there was no issue with my previous role.

Unicornandbows · 07/10/2018 14:06

Yup sue her

Biancadelriosback · 07/10/2018 14:08

I've never done anything like that before, I don't even think I could afford to!

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nakaji · 07/10/2018 14:23

It hopefully won’t come to that. A letter from a solicitor might be enough but I’d make sure her superiors know what’s going on. At the very least I would get legal advice on this. It’s a very serious matter.

Biancadelriosback · 07/10/2018 14:34

Yeah hopefully she'll panic and stop/offer a retraction.
It's just really frustrating that she thinks this is acceptable!

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FadedRed · 07/10/2018 14:36

Are you in a profession with a code of conduct and professional regulating organisation? If so, then they should be able to advise on this level of unprofessional conduct, but you would need some evidence to proceed.

Biancadelriosback · 07/10/2018 14:42

Not as far as I know

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IWentAwayIStayedAway · 07/10/2018 14:53

Legal letter asap to her and to her mgr and HR!

yorkshirepud44 · 07/10/2018 22:28

Absolutely go the legal route. We deal with this stuff all the time. It will stop her in her tracks.

Buggerbrexit · 07/10/2018 22:34

Yup, as long as you are absolutely sure that this is happening, go down the legal route.

Biancadelriosback · 08/10/2018 07:29

My friend would have no reason to lie to me about this so I trust what she has told me. Also it would explain a few things.
The thing I'm a bit worried about is I have no proof. Obviously I can't ask my ex clients, I don't really speak to my ex co-workers (they were great but our relationship stopped at co-workers so haven't stayed in touch).

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JollyAndBright · 08/10/2018 07:45

Speak to a solicitor, the solicitor can speak to ex colleagues and clients.

I would definitely go down that route iiwm, In my business reputation is everything and there is no way I would let someone get away with slandering my name.

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