Is this harrassment/stalking?

[thisisthend]

A long time family friend betrayed me and her best friend(my mum) last year by trying to sabotage my career by contacting the organisation I worked for, disclosing my past mental health problems and also making up lies. Long story short...we cut off all contact with her and told her never to come near us again. Despite this, whenever she sees my mother in the locality, she comes up to her and begs her to speak to her again, saying she misses her. We've already told her if she comes near us again we'll go to the police. Do you think this is enough to constitute harassment? I want to go to the police, but she hasn't spoken to us in months, it is just on the off chance when she sees my mother around that she approaches her, so I'm not sure what to do. Just the idea of her still coming near us again distresses me.

It's not harassment I don't think if she's just coming up when she sees you. She clearly hasn't got the message to leave you alone. Maybe write her a letter? Has she ever explained her actions?

She denies her actions which is the worst thing because it was obviously her as she was the only one who had access to this level of information.

Why on earth did she do that?

No, an occasional unplanned approach (which is what this sounds like from what you've said on here) doesn't strike me as harassment.

So how do you know that someone contacted your organisation?

Because they called me in and took me through disciplinary proceedings, reading exactly what had been related in the phone call she made to them and I nearly lost everything. We had a minor falling out before it happened, but we've always had a bit of a stormy relationship, but I never thought she'd have gone to the extent of trying to totally ruin my life like this.

There are a couple of things that stand out as being a bit odd here tbh. Had you lied to your employer in some way OP, because it's hard to see why they would go straight to a disciplinary over a phone call.

Also, how are you so involved with your mother's friend that you have a 'stormy relationship'?!

No I did not lie, but I wasn't aware that they needed info on mental health problems from years and years ago. In my opinion, they overreacted to the situation based on the phone call which was very malicious.

Well, me and my mother's friend have argued since I was a little kid. She started texting us when we were on holiday, causing drama about the land our ponies were kept on, when she could have sorted this out at any time, but it felt like she was trying to wreck our holiday, so I was rude to her on the phone and told to go away in stronger language.

Sounds like she's not got enough to do if she's causing those sorts of problems! I'm a bit shocked your employer believes a random phone call you and hauled you in over mental health problems - horrible company!

I'd record times and dates I'd everything in case it escalates