I'm sad,really fucking sad.

[masma]

As the title says..I'm having a really really bad weekend where everything that can go wrong has gone wrong and I'm genuinely just down in the dumps..what happy things do you do to cheer yourself up when your sad?

I don't drink but anything else will be nice.Me and DD have been for a big walk this morning but now we are home and I'm just so emotional.

Thanks

Chocolate.A movie.Scented candles. A hot water bottle and snuggling in bed.

Sorry it's a bad day OP, we all have them sometimes. Nothing wrong with feeling a bit sad.

I do like a nice coffee, so will make myself a luxurious one during the day with a pot of coffee, flavoured syrup and squirty cream. It's my signal to reset my day, sometimes! Or cake/choc/whatever food you prefer.

For some reason, blankets really help to snuggle under too.

Hope tomorrow is a better day for you, OP.

Hi OP, no words of wisdom to offer, in the same boat. My husband left me this week and it's my birthday today. Sending you big hugs

I’d get very comfy in the sofa with a good book or Netflix. Be gentle with yourself and know that it’ll pass (eventually). It’s an opportunity possibly, to show your dd some coping skills, some “it’s ok to feel crap but you need to look after yourself and do something nice/relaxing to get through it” attitude.

Happy birthday Unevenbeard

Blankets and little luxuries to everyone feeling a bit down today

Sorry you’re feeling down op.
I usually need to offload and talk to a friend. Have you got anyone you can talk to? You can talk to us, as others have said.

I also like to remind myself of things I’m grateful for and have a plan of action or a list of what I need to do to change the situation.

Thank you so much for the replies,it's really outing if I go into detail but the long and short of it is I had a spinal tumour,had radiotherapy,lost the use of my bladder due to spinal tumour and now full time catheter,got menopause because of radiotherapy and I'm only 26 and now I suffer the world worst migraines also and iv seemed to have slipped into some sort of serious depression!I take 5 anti depressants a day along with loads and loads of painkillers I'm just so down right now.people are going through 100 times worse Than me I know but this feels like my worst right now

That’s terrible! No wonder you feel crap! While there are things to be grateful for as you say, it’s not unreasonable to feel like that’s all just epically unfair and to grieve for what you’ve lost. Not sure chocolate,fave film and novels are going to cut it but worth a try. Hope you feel better.

Oh dear op. It really isn't fair that you're going through this right now.

"people are going through 100 times worse Than me"

I don't think they are. You are definitely having a very shit time at the moment. Please be kinder to yourself.

You’ve had it rough op! You’re allowed to feel bad but I really hope you’re getting the support to deal with it all physically, mentally and emotionally.

Oh goodness! Do you have any family or friends you can talk to? It sounds like you have been through a hell of a time. Sending hugs. 💐

Hey op that sounds like a huge amount to have been through/ still going through and you are still young. I think you’ve every right to feel as you do and it’s probably part of the process of coming to terms with everything that’s happened to you. I think part of our culture is that we have this stiff upper lip and it’s not the done thing to be seen as struggling we carry on no matter what but really this is not life and I think it’s healthier to be true to ourselves and if we are having a shit day it’s just that a shit day!

I haven’t got dressed today I’m in bed right now I’m fucked off with everyone and everything and my issues are pretty tame in comparison but that’s how it is. Sometimes it’s ok to take a day or 100 out if you need to.

Give your Dd a hug and just snuggle up with a film a book or some music. Tomorrow I think the weather is better but there also some stuff going on with planets etc right now if your into this

I do have family,no friends anymore as I lost most of them during this. A 26 year old who doesn't drink alcohol is no fun to invite on nights out!most days I'm fine and then today I just feel flat,I have a little girl to take of 24/7 so I'm trying to have as few of these days as possible.Talking to you guys is really helping so Thankyou x

You have been through a lot OP. What about a snuggle with DD in front of a Disney film?

Sorry to hear this masma. Remember it's ok to feel crap when crap things happen. Sometimes a good cry helps release some of the tension and emotions and let's you 're-set'.

When i am feeling overwhelmed (I have MS), instead of putting on a brave face and getting on with it, I allow myself a few hours to grieve for the me that I should have been, and play the songs that help me cry.

When I'm ready again, I pull up my socks and continue doing things as best I can. I feel it stops me falling too deep.

I understand that's not always possible for you with a beautiful little daughter to look after, but when you are able to, put yourself first and 'feel' your way forward. x

I'm rubbish at baking but I baked cupcakes for DD to decorate she's very happy,that makes me happy 💜

Oh @masma, you've been through so much. It's hard enough being a single parent when you're in good health never mind what you've been through.

You're doing amazing just to keep going x

Well done on the baking, OP. I remember making endless crumbles with DS because he had a sensory thing about mixing the flour butter and sugar. We always made too much and I never actually cooked much of what he’d mixed because it was like Playdoh by the time he’d finished with it!

You’ve been through some huge life changing events there. I do hope you have the support you need. Are the family “with you”? A partner?

It's just me and DD in the house,she keeps me going I'd hate to think where I'd be without her.

Iv made it to night time and iv just put DD to bed I really want to watch the notebook and have a good cry so I think I will do just that.

Also no partner or anything right now

Ok love. I’m wondering whether there’s any practical support for you. I’m truly amazed that you are doing so well, under the circumstances. I guess you have to keep going to allow your dd to have normality.

Will you let us know how you are tomorrow?

Night Masma

You're right Masma, other people have got more stuff than you going on, but this is your stuff that you're dealing with, so you're entitled to feel bad about it. It is a loss and you have every right to mourn that loss fully, so you can deal with it properly.

You're doing a great job. Be kind to yourself and DD. and talk to people and MN.

Your point about other people having it worse really struck a chord with me. It's ok to indulge in misery every now and then, no matter how big or small your problems are. Well done for persevering today. One more day done, take it one day at a time

"Other people may have it worse" but at the end of the day pain is pain. You're feelings are valid an you're honestly going through a lot. Try not to compare yourself to anyone. It's okay to feel the way you do.