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I just had a completely pointless conversation with a stranger and it felt good!

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FrustratedTeddyLamp · 05/10/2018 21:26

I get this is no big deal for 99% of people but for years now ive suffered anxiety and depression where at times ive not left the house for months and then its been mostly for medical reasons. Recently ive found going to the cinema to be calming so ive gone there a lot ( see my posts on the film board) but its just ticket for x film please etc. Well tonight i had to go to the shops which i felt crap about but i had a jokey conversation to the woman behind the checkout and it made me feel awesome. I know it sounds stupid, she's probably already forgotten about it, its entirely possible it was a fake laugh or smile but in the recent years ive not had many moments like that like others when ive forced myself out are looking at fairly mundane things like a bright red postbox on a street that stood out and it made me feel like things arent that bad.

I guess it comes from a fear that being away from everybody and little social contact you fear you'll lose the ability to interact with people properly, like i have writing properly as i hardly write, making grammatical errors or trying to type as fast as i did before not properly looking and pressing the wrong button.

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BoogieFeet · 05/10/2018 21:30

Glad to hear this Flowers

PierreBezukov · 05/10/2018 21:31

Good for you! I also enjoy random conversations with strangers.

JenFromTheGlen · 05/10/2018 21:32

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confusedandemployed · 05/10/2018 21:34

That's fab. For the record, I've been a shop assistant and it's those little interactions with customers which makes the job enjoyable so I'm quite sure she hasn't forgotten. Onwards and upwards OP Flowers

FrustratedTeddyLamp · 05/10/2018 21:40

Thanks ive made a lot of progress recently and i'm starting to feel more like a normal person in the world again rather than being hid away.

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3boysandabump · 05/10/2018 21:41

Ahh that's great op. And from the perspective of the other person little chats like that can really break up a crappy day at work and aren't instantly forgotten.

CloudPop · 05/10/2018 21:43

Good for you. Best wishes.

Knittedfairies · 05/10/2018 21:46

Good for you; onwards and upwards!

TillyVonMilly · 05/10/2018 21:51

That’s brilliant op. I have random conversations with people, I seem to have one of those faces that invites people to talk to me Grin I’m always happy if I make them smile

Cobrider · 05/10/2018 21:55

Good for you! I love talking to random people, all sorts of interesting types around.

Peachypips · 05/10/2018 21:57

Boom! You did brilliantly. Now you will have more confidence to do small talk again.

It sounds like your recovery is well on its way. Well done you!

DonnaDarko · 05/10/2018 22:06

I work with customers all day and the highlight is definitely when you have a proper chat with someone and a bit of banter. I'm sure she hasn't forgotten and you made her day 😊

Athena51 · 05/10/2018 22:09

That's lovely, I'm so thrilled for you and I'm sure the lady on the checkout enjoyed the chat too Flowers

SomeKnobend · 05/10/2018 22:12

Well done OP, I totally get this.

yumyumpoppycat · 05/10/2018 22:12

Fantastic OP Flowers

Weepatchesoflove · 05/10/2018 22:19

Flowers You are awesome op ~ well done

AdaColeman · 05/10/2018 22:19

Well done!
If there is somewhere to stop for a coffee near the cinema, maybe try that some time if it's not busy. People often have a chat in cafes.

Thanks
UpstartCrow · 05/10/2018 22:22

And you started this thread, so thats two conversations today Smile

Skittlesandbeer · 05/10/2018 22:23

They say humans should try and interact (in however small a way) with 7 others in any given day, to maintain mental health.

Now I’m personally happiest with one meaty conversation every couple of days, plus a couple of quick ones like yours.

I distinctly remember the first few months of my dd’s life, when a walk to the shops was a big deal, and an encouraging smile from our lovely Greek green grocer would be enough to make my day!

I hope you have many more sunny interactions in your week, and leverage some into good friendships! Go you!

MyBrexitGoesOnHoliday · 05/10/2018 22:23

You made me smile 😊

It’s fantastic and I really hope that your progress will carry in so you have many more of those nice times talking to a stranger.

beachcomber243 · 05/10/2018 22:23

I can totally get how you feel, so well done.

If someone speaks to me in my day I'm made up as I have social anxiety so don't speak first. If I'm spoken to though I can respond and enjoy a chat to someone random. I rarely see anyone at all so it's great to think someone has time for a few words with me.

The best places are where people walk their dogs and aren't rushing, and bus stops!

Flyaway78 · 05/10/2018 22:27

You made a nice connection with someone today ... that’s lovely. Well done and enjoy it.

Maybe try another one tomorrow. It clearly makes you feel good.

Well done you. Have a lovely weekend x

FrustratedTeddyLamp · 05/10/2018 22:27

Thanks everyone i was wary of posting as i know it sounds a little weird but i was really pleased it happened and had nobody to share it with. Thanks for the support.

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mrsmuddlepies · 05/10/2018 22:28

Well done! Your thread has cheered up many posters. Please continue to have random chats with strangers. You do more good than you realise X

FrustratedTeddyLamp · 05/10/2018 22:30

*Well done!
If there is somewhere to stop for a coffee near the cinema, maybe try that some time if it's not busy. People often have a chat in cafes. *

See i dont think i could do this, i always feel people wont want to be hassled or will get the wrong impression.

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