Would you tell your friend

[Oddcat]

My DD has started a new job alongside another newbie ,working with my friends daughter in a professional setting. Friends DD is being an absolute cow to both of them . She's told them to shut the fuck up, slagged off one of their haircuts , told them she could knock them out with one punch , told DD the cup of tea she made her was 'fucking shit' and on and on . DD went to a leaving do of the person she's taken over from and they said friends daughter was the reason for leaving . A lot of this behaviour happens while their manager is present and she says nothing .

My question is , my friend is bound to ask me ,at some point , how DD is getting on - what should I say ? I don't want to make things worse for DD and I don't want to upset my friend .

Who is above the manager? Hand written letter from dd to them?

She's not quite sure who the hierarchy is yet and didn't want to rock the boat as she's new . Everyone knows how awful this person is but they all just seem to tolerate it .

Well she can’t continue working with someone like that and leave it unchallenged.

If she raises it she may well be hailed as a hero by all the other staff.

How old is your dd?

That's what I've said to her , I can't believe she's been allowed to continue being so vile to people.

She's 20

It's up to the girls to sort it out at work , not for you to be tittle tattling to your friend.

A lot of this behaviour happens while their manager is present and she says nothing .

And nothing will happen with a manager like that.

Remember, there are virtually no employment rights until after two years, so unless she has another job to go to, be wary of making waves

I don't want to fall out with my friend , she's lovely, I guess I'll just have to be noncommittal if she asks. DD is keeping her head down and biting her tongue .

If I had found out my mum was gossiping about me to my co workers family when I was 20 I would have been having very stern words with her!

I have no intention of gossiping, I just wondered what to say , without upsetting everyone ,if she asks me how she's getting on . She is aware of her daughters temper because she told me she's going to anger management therapy .

Well then she knows. If she asks just tell her that her anger problem is evident at work.

Atrocious Thankyou , I'll say just that , I asked DD what she would want me to say and she said she didn't mind .