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Would you tell your friend

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Oddcat · 05/10/2018 21:05

My DD has started a new job alongside another newbie ,working with my friends daughter in a professional setting. Friends DD is being an absolute cow to both of them . She's told them to shut the fuck up, slagged off one of their haircuts , told them she could knock them out with one punch , told DD the cup of tea she made her was 'fucking shit' and on and on . DD went to a leaving do of the person she's taken over from and they said friends daughter was the reason for leaving . A lot of this behaviour happens while their manager is present and she says nothing .

My question is , my friend is bound to ask me ,at some point , how DD is getting on - what should I say ? I don't want to make things worse for DD and I don't want to upset my friend .

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Aprilislonggone · 05/10/2018 21:06

Who is above the manager? Hand written letter from dd to them?

Oddcat · 05/10/2018 21:08

She's not quite sure who the hierarchy is yet and didn't want to rock the boat as she's new . Everyone knows how awful this person is but they all just seem to tolerate it .

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AtrociousCircumstance · 05/10/2018 21:11

Well she can’t continue working with someone like that and leave it unchallenged.

If she raises it she may well be hailed as a hero by all the other staff.

SandAndSea · 05/10/2018 21:13

How old is your dd?

Oddcat · 05/10/2018 21:13

That's what I've said to her , I can't believe she's been allowed to continue being so vile to people.

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Oddcat · 05/10/2018 21:14

She's 20

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MacosieAsunter · 05/10/2018 21:15

It's up to the girls to sort it out at work , not for you to be tittle tattling to your friend.

A lot of this behaviour happens while their manager is present and she says nothing .

And nothing will happen with a manager like that.

Remember, there are virtually no employment rights until after two years, so unless she has another job to go to, be wary of making waves

Oddcat · 05/10/2018 21:18

I don't want to fall out with my friend , she's lovely, I guess I'll just have to be noncommittal if she asks. DD is keeping her head down and biting her tongue .

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LivingDeadGirlUK · 05/10/2018 21:24

If I had found out my mum was gossiping about me to my co workers family when I was 20 I would have been having very stern words with her!

Oddcat · 05/10/2018 21:28

I have no intention of gossiping, I just wondered what to say , without upsetting everyone ,if she asks me how she's getting on . She is aware of her daughters temper because she told me she's going to anger management therapy .

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AtrociousCircumstance · 05/10/2018 21:30

Well then she knows. If she asks just tell her that her anger problem is evident at work.

Oddcat · 05/10/2018 21:37

Atrocious Thankyou , I'll say just that , I asked DD what she would want me to say and she said she didn't mind .

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