When did you stop worrying about SIDS?

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My youngest DC is 20 months (I think!) and I had thought that we were out of the woods in that regard by now, but I heard a story on the radio this afternoon about an 18 month old who sadly passed away from SIDS.

When did you stop worrying?

Off to order the monitor... and give 6 year old DD a kiss in her sleep.

New mum here and this is my biggest worry. Cosleeping atm as he just will not settle on his cot. Wish I'd not come across this thread :'(

disco just buy a monitor. you'll be fine

@discopisco same

I've just ordered a monitor for my nearly 6mo ds who is rapidly growing out of his next to me crib and will be shortly moving to his big boy's cot in his own room. Love to those who have lost little ones.

I lost my daughter at 3 months from SIDS and this worry has stayed with me.I found her in her cot.I wasn't lucky enough to have another child,one miscarriage and two ectopic,14 years of infertility treatment.But had I had another child I think I would have been a nervous wreck.When I babysat my many nieces and nephews I was too afraid to put them down in the cot or pram to sleep.Now I have much loved pets and I check constantly that they are breathing when they are sleeping.I was told SIDS can happen up until the age of two but not sure if that's correct.

We had a monitor until DS was one and he was moving so much it was going off multiple times a night. He is 2.5 now and I still check him before I go to bed and I breathe a sigh of relief when I hear him wake in the morning.

Ds2 died at 7 months and 4 days. I followed the guidelines to the letter, he stilled died. 16 years later I still can't sleep after 3.35 am, I still check the other children even the 19 year old , although he's at university now so can't. .

Love to you Golden and Empathy. 💐💐

discopisco if you follow safe cosleeping guidelines then there is no more risk than in a cot. But you must follow them all.

No smoking or alcohol for you or partner if he's in the bed. Baby between you and bed edge, not between you and partner, swap duvet for sheets and blankets, preferably breastfeed.

In case it's useful to anyone these are the monitors we had.

www.respisense.com/en/index.php

They go on the nappy. We used them until they were about 12 months and the DC started taking off their clothes and pulling them off.
Rarely had false alarms.

www.amazon.co.uk/Tomy-TSP500-Movement-Sensor-Monitor/dp/B00361FMQW?tag=mumsnetforum-21

These were the under matress monitors. I'm guessing they have upgraded now (it's been 7 years) but I'm sure you can find the latest model or similar.
The good thing with these was that we could hook 3 pads together, we had cot beds so a large space to cover.
Didn't have too many false alarms but I wouldn't care of we had. I found them immensely reassuring.

Empathy

Golden

Not SIDS but I do know of someone lost from SADS.

The worrying never stops.

Every parent in the UK (and Ireland) should be aware that our mattresses (for babies, children and adults) contain the highest volume of flame retardant chemicals in the world - up to one third of the mattress weight. These chemicals are produced by the flame retardant industry with minimal testing then invariably banned for being toxic when properly researched. One example is organophosphate flame retardants: banned in the UK in sheep dip and crop sprays but still included in mattresses!

Flame retardants are strongly linked with cancer, thyroid disruption, the rise in autism and a whole host of other illnesses. Children are particularly vulnerable. UK homes contain the highest levels of flame retardant dust in the world, which is easily inhaled and absorbed through the skin.

Californian has just announced that it is banning all flame retardant chemicals in juvenile products like mattresses. In the US is it quite easy now to buy mattresses and sofas free of flame retardants. The rest of the EU will not have flame retardants in its soft furnishings.

Parents worried about this really should buy child mattresses from outside the UK or, if you can afford it, from a UK producer that does not use flame retardants (but they're expensive and, unfortunately, the producer may be lying).

I apologise if I sound a little curt about this. But it is a massive scandal that I and others have been fighting for a long time to put right. The scandal is increased by the fact that the basis for the high flame retardant rate in UK products was proved by the government itself in 2014 to be false, i.e. our mattresses and sofas are not fire-safe, as we expect them to be.