1 year old still never slept through the night...

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My LO has just turned one, he is breast fed, and he has never spelt through the night. He is still waking at least three times a night, when I read up online it appears that most babies are sleeping through by this point?

I can cope with the broken sleep myself, but I'm worried for his development as sleep is so important for babies. What can I do to encourage him to not wake/ self settle/ stay in his cot?

When he wakes I usually bring him into our bed for a feed, and then he will sleep happily between us, but as soon as I put him back into his cot he wakes up crying.

I have a 4 year old whos only just started sleeping though properly. Some take longer than others to sleep though the night. It can take till 5 for some ro finally sleep. If you have no other concerns regarding his devlopment i wouldn't worry about not sleeping though yet.

I'm afraid I can't be of much help. My son is 2 next month and hasn't once slept through the night. If it makes you feel any better it hasn't had an adverse affect on his development at all. He is getting better but we're not there yet! Hang in there! Co sleeping was the only viable option for us until he was about 20 months. Since then he sleeps in his bed (took sides off cot and put protective mesh barrier up as found he was sleeping better in mesh travel cot than proper cot as he moves a lot and was knocking himself on the wood) until about 4:30 and only stirs rather than screaming for hours!

My 3 year old has slept through about twice, it’s totally normal!

I firmly believe that like most skills, if you don’t teach children to sleep they struggle to learn. The only poor sleeper we have as a young adult is the one who was indulged, cuddled, held, rocked, lullabies etc. The others were trained and can sleep on a floodlit pile of rocks.

The not sleeping never did any harm to their development though.

My two started just after they turned two. They're fine (though I wasn't!).

Neither of mine, breastfed until 3, slept through until 2.5-3. We co-slept as well. They're both very bright and healthy.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Intact not at all. My ds now 3yo was formula fed until 18m but still wanted milk at night so still have him formula when he woke up during night then at 19 made a big thing about being a big boy got rid of formula altogether and started potty training too (he was interested) I changed the bottle at night to a cup and it worked. And sine he was maybe 29m he sleep through night, however I out him to bed at 9pm because that's what works for us
My dd 9m sleeps through the night. Every now and then she wakes at 5 or 6 so I bring her in our bed and she goes back to sleep

I disagree completely with Cherry and think it's very much more nature rather than nurture. I had two who only slept through at 2.5 and 4.5 and one who slept through at 10 weeks! No sleep training for any of them, apart from sensible low lights, no stimulating interaction overnight etc. He'll get there when he's ready. If you can sleep with him in bed with you, just leave him there. I never could so I never co-slept with mine (and in fact one of them would only sleep when they were entirely left alone, he hated being cuddled/touched)

I have 3 children first slept through from 9 weeks, second is 6 and normally wakes at 2 for an hour or so. He has slept through about 10 times in total - he wouldn't sleep for more than 20 mins at a time until he was 6 months and very gradually we got to where we are now. My third slept through from about a year.

All 3 are happy healthy children. I would carry on doing what you are doing. If you are all getting enough sleep then that's what's important and eventually he will self settle when he wakes.

I think those who sleep through at 10 weeks are more luck. I wouldn’t train little ones but by about 9 months they can definitely be taught without harming them and in a fairly short time. It’s hard to do though. By 4 you can certainly be saying go back to sleep and expecting them to do so.

Normal I think. 2 and a half year old has never but has slept 7.30pm through until 4am (so maybe that counts?) a couple of times.

Mine both started sleeping through when I stopped bfing at night around one . Eldest didn’t sleep through consistently till about 3/4 and youngest climbs in bed with me half way through night but sleeps well apart from that .

I'm nearly 30 and have never slept through without it being drug induced.

I can't help with the sleep (because my breastfed 2.5 year old has only sttn a handful of times, I cosleep) but I just wanted to say please don't worry about his development. It's totally within the range of normal to not sttn at one or even two.

DS sailed through his 2 year check at the HV and nursery are always happy with his progress.

My two year old still doesn't sleep through, she did for about a month when I gave up breastfeeding at 21 months, but then teething messed it all up again. I know loads of people whose children still don't sleep through at 4 or 5 and others whose babies have slept through from a few weeks old, I don't think you should worry about not sleeping through at 1 as it's still very little.

My eldest started to sleep through reliably at about 3. DS2, however, was 5. He's 6 now and still has the odd night when he flings our bedroom door open as though he's being chased. Neither of them seem to have suffered any ill effects developmentally. In fact, it was probably PART of their development to reach the point of sleeping through in their own time, if that makes any sense. I, on the other hand, still resemble a hollow eyed zombie.

It's tiring, but not sure it's bad for their development.

My niece was always a very poor sleeper (didn't sleep through until 5 or 6 years old) and has just got a 1st class honours degree, plus plays a sport at national level.

can sleep on a floodlit pile of rocks I have two adult DC like that. One slept through a major incident in our road - sirens, blue lights, shouting, the rest of us up and about etc.

Both mine didn't sleep through until 2yo and 3yo. I was knackered. Totally feel your pain.

However, both are doing well at school so I don't think it's had a permanent effect.

My non sleeping DS until age 4, is at University doing really well (and he can now sleep for England). No development problems except maybe the lines on my face/bags under my eyes.

He seemed to have extraordinary levels of energy for a baby who was up 3 times a night and up at 5 every morning for the whole day, I on the other hand had the energy levels of a sloth after 4 years of that. 20 or so years later and I am fine again.

DS3 only started at 2 and he still continues to have odd nights that he decides he has had enough sleep at 3 am...