Am I a shit parent

[lexi727]

A few days ago I met up with my friend who has a DD aged 3. I have DS2 and a newborn DD. She was asking me if DS is a fussy eater because her DD was/is incredibly fussy. To the point where a lot of the time she refuses to eat anything that's not chicken nuggets or peas.

So we're talking about food and I say that DS had fajitas for tea last night. At this point, friend visibly recoiled as if I had just suggested I feed my child dog shit sandwiches. She was absolutely APPALLED. Went on a massive rant about how children should only have very basic food, certainly not things like salsa! (By the way, the salsa was homemade and not at all spicy). She's since sent me several links to 'toddler appropriate recipes' that she thinks I should take a look at.

Am I losing my mind? Am I feeding my child terrible food?? Should I basically just be giving him spag bol and toast?

That's hysterical!

No... let them explore different foods. Tbh not surprised her kid is picky - So would I be if my palate was so underdeveloped.

I think your friend was taking her crisis of confidence out on you. Don’t fall for it.

@formerbabe I've never seen anybody look so disgusted in my life! She was horrified!

What's wrong with a child having spicy salsa?!
She's a total moron.

But everyone loves fajitas!
DS who’s 15mo will happily destroy a plate of them.

Of course not.

Introducing children to a wide variety of heathy foods it a good thing.

There's nothing wrong with a homemade bolognaise sauce and pasta nor fajitas.

I'd be more concerned with chicken nuggets tbh.

My DC love spicy food tbh.

She's being weird, don't worry about what you're doing. Of course children shouldn't have just very basic food!

Examples of said recipes:
www.rachaelraymag.com/recipe/pepperoni-pizza-puffs

www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/2075/tomato-soup

allrecipes.co.uk/recipe/6760/baked-chicken-nuggets.aspx

Why would you take on board the opinion of someone who's kid is a really fussy eater?! I would understand you questioning your parenting if she had a child with a wide and refined palate but come on??

Pretty sure children of ethnicity are introduced to curries, spicy foods from a very young age. I don't see the problem. Wish my kids ate fajitas.

People can be so strange. If you are cooking fajitas/curry/any other meal then offer the same food to your children and let them explore all the different tastes and textures. How else will they be exposed to new foods? Carry on as you were.

Why would you take on board the opinion of someone who's kid is a really fussy eater?! I would understand you questioning your parenting if she had a child with a wide and refined palate but come on??
This. A hundred times.
Why on earth does she feel she should be giving you advice?

I reckon she knows her child is 'fussy' because she feeds them total crap and that's what they are used to so won't try new things. Fajitas with homemade salsa are far more balanced nutritionally than whatever a 'pepperoni pizza puff' is. And total bullshit that toddlers can't have spicy food, DD wolfed down a goat curry at just over one year old which was too hot for me, she was offered whatever we are having from early on and will try and eat pretty much anything. Your friend is just trying to put you down, which makes her both nasty and and idiot.

LMAO definitely not. I think it's better to encourage your daughter to eat proper foods and try different things rather than the typical 'toddler diet' of bland finger foods. Her child has issues with food not yours. Your DD sounds like she is eating perfectly well x

Your friend is both stupid and spiteful and it’s just not reasonable to be both.

Feeding toddlers normal food is good. Her idea of normal is shit, and s a result her toddler prefers shit food.

She’s a double bellend too, because plenty of toddlers are given lovely meals which they reject in favour of junk. Your friend hasn’t even bothered and has gone straight for the lazy option.

Ffs, does she think Indian children have different digestive systems? Idiot.

@EricTheGuineaPig I was just so shocked by her reaction! I wish had it filmed.

One of mine went through a fussy stage at about three, today (at nearly 7) he was drinking hot sauce from the bottle . He’s generally pretty adventurous and will try most things as will the other two.

Ridiculous. DH (from South America) feeds our son (2) the normal, traditional foods.

Well dh did once feed DS1 (then 18m) a chilli con carne that blistered his poor little butt when it came through! P'raps a bit less spicy would have been better...

DS1 however loved it and regularly ate curries, spicy food..anything we ate in fact. It was great..and having had a very fussy, bland food only child before him, soooo much easier and healthier.

Stick to your fajitas!!!