Can't get over how horrible I used to be

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Name changed for this.
I'm mid 20s now, settled down with 2 children, decent job etc etc.
BUT I don't have a clear conscience and regret a lot of things I did it my teens, mainly my high school years. I just feel like a terrible person and it basically haunts me.
Some of the things I did in school
-Steal multiple phones
-a few fights (I have a criminal record)
-stealing of family members
-stealing from shops (arrested)
-was quite intimidating and quite bully (ish)

I mean I know how terrible I was, I have totally changed my whole life now and need to move forward but I just have these horrible flash backs and can't move on.
Any advice?

I was bullied and intimidated for 5 years at school. Tbh I hope those girls have horrible flash backs now and know what they did.

cheesefield I hope for the same

I hear you op, but you can’t go back, look forward and make up for the bad times.

I know many people are bullied in school and I do find it absolutely disgusting. I never bullied as such, but I was intimidating in a way where I would get cigarettes etc off people. (Just being honest)
I never picked on people's looks, insecurities or vulnerabilities.
I'm really sorry you were bullied.

I am trying to look forward and this thread is helping me so thank you to everyone who has commented. It's all helped.

Did you know that current research suggests that the human brain isn't fully developed until your mid-20s, possibly later? www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24173194

I hope knowing that might help you forgive yourself. I would also suggest looking for ways that you can use your past to help in the present. E.g. mentoring young people.

Check whether your local GP offer free talking therapy, as I think that could also help.

Have you heard of Karl Jung and embracing the shadow.

Read why good people do bad things by James Hollis Phd. It's a fantastic book (as is Finding meaning in the second half of life)
You will understand the path from living unconsciously controlled by your shadow to living consciously. You will forgive yourself and understand others.

Seems like a great read and I will definitely look into that. Thank you

I think the idea of repaying if now might really help you eg Volunteeting with s youth charity of some sort.

Good luck op. God knows we all have regrets