What's that 80:20 rule of being a good parent?

[Dancergirl]

Or is it 70:30?

As in, if you're an ok parent for 80/70% of the time, you have a bit of leeway to be a bit crap?

I'm beating myself up for a rubbish evening last night - absolutely lost it with 11 year old dd for getting paint on her new school uniform, leaving me with a painty, messy plastic bag for me to deal with (I still have a blue arm this morning!) and not getting on with her homework.

The evening continued on a downward spiral, dealing with 15 year old dd who has a limited diet due to ARFID and refused to eat spag bol. I just can't feed this child

I feel crap at shouting at dd3 - she is ASD and gets easily stressed. I'm her mum, I should be helping and supporting her so what do I do - lose my shit with her

You're only human. Be kind to yourself. Try not to beat yourself up. Chin up petal. Say you're sorry, tell them you love them, move on...

Thank you I did apologise. I never wanted to be a shouty mum, and I'm not most of the time but occasionally I get the rage.

I can deffo relate to that! You're not alone