Things your parents did that still affect you

[BigBumandMumTum]

When I was little, if we were at someone else's house and Asked to go to the toilet my mum used to make me say "can I go and be nosy upstairs" instead because she thought it was funny

I still don't like asking to use people's toilets 😒

This is not going to be pleasant responses although it may be intended as lighthearted.

The effects of my childhood have left many scars, physically and mentally.

My DM & DF always have full fat milk from the farm and used to make a big deal about shaking the milk before we used it as the cream would separate and float.

We have skimmed pasteurized milk but I still have to shake it, I've not lived at home for 20 years.

at shaking the milk! The cream on top is the best bit and the done thing is to fight over who gets it (or be sneaky and drink it as soon as you fetch the bottle in).

My mother criticised everything I ever wore - she seemed to think that if she ever complimented me, I'd get "vain", a pet peeve of hers. So until I left home at 22 I'd have to endure at least one crushing comment on my appearance, every day.

Even on my wedding day, I was checking my dress in the mirror and made a comment about the hem being a bit uneven.....Mum spat out the statement " Why worry about that - nobody will be looking at you !"

She is long dead now, but I still have absolutely no confidence in my appearance.

Not sure if this is valid but lack of encouragement. I had homework and neither was bothered if I did it or not! No encouragement to enter further education in fact my dad said it’s pointless because “all you will be is a housewife”! I wish he had lived to see me get my degree! My childhood was ok, my dad was strict and even at 15 I had to be in by 7pm until I told him it was ridiculous and in future I would be in by 9pm.

Unfortunately I don't have a light hearted response.

My parents left many deep scars.