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How long into your relationship did the l word pop up?

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highlighta · 03/10/2018 14:10

So how long did it take before you told your partner, or your partner told you that they loved you?

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Tigerbear · 03/10/2018 14:15

By the 7th date! (Which was an experience in itself - our 7th date was a trip to Marrakesh!). I said it first, on our first day of the trip, and he said he felt exactly the same. Never had feelings like it. 6 months later, we’ve been living together for a month 😍

fantasmasgoria1 · 03/10/2018 14:25

Second date! Two years in now and engaged. We just knew we were the one for each other!

fantasmasgoria1 · 03/10/2018 14:26

And living together after two months!

Thatstheendofmytether · 03/10/2018 14:28

A couple of months, he said it in bed and I thought he was just saying it and was half sleeping so I ignored him on 2 different occasions until he said it a third time and I sat up and asked if he was awake, he said of cpirsenhe was 😂. I was a bit surprised he said it again after me ignoring him twice 😂

Butterymuffin · 03/10/2018 14:30

3 weeks in. Been together for donkeys' years now.

whatwillbewillbe03 · 03/10/2018 14:32

about 2 months... he said it first but knew i felt the same.. i fell hook line and sinker from our first date.

We were engaged after 18 months although that would have been sooner in different circumstances.

Yet to move in together... that needs a thread in itself!!

MrsMotherHen · 03/10/2018 14:34

2 or 3 weeks now 8 years later happily married with two kids Grin

ButAIBUtho · 03/10/2018 14:35

Ages.

A year?

He wasn't as into me as I was him.

Dhalandchips · 03/10/2018 14:35

Nearly a year. He made me beg! Divorced now! Confused

EgremontRusset · 03/10/2018 14:35

A year GrinShock
Not done us any harm. Married with DC now.

SecondTimeCharm · 03/10/2018 14:39

a week? maybe 2.

together 12.5 years now

seanna · 03/10/2018 14:39

13 days... Although we more or less said when drunk within 7!

DieAntword · 03/10/2018 14:39

It happened before we had a relationship. Sure gave me something to think about.

CurbsideProphet · 03/10/2018 14:40

About 6 weeks after our first date Smile

Dandybelle · 03/10/2018 14:41

A few months, maybe 3? We weren't officially together just yet, and were on a night out both plied with alcohol and I was having a moan about us not being official and he went;
'For fucks sake Dandy, would it help if you knew I was totally in love with you?!'
Well yes, yes it would help quite a lot actually 😬

WillowintheUK · 03/10/2018 14:43

He said it after two weeks. I thought about it a little more, but soon returned the sentiment.

That was 48 and a half years ago.

He's no longer the boy he was then, nor am I the girl, but he's still the one for me.

Moonflower12 · 03/10/2018 14:50

@WillowintheUK
That is absolutely lovely.

OddestSock · 03/10/2018 14:51

A long time. Not because we didn’t feel it, but we’d both recently come out of other relationships & had been hurt quite badly.

We’re 15.5 years down the line now, married with 2 children so it didn’t matter a jot that we were too scared to say it back then!

BertsFriend · 03/10/2018 14:52

Willow that's lovely Smile

Dh told me he was in love with me on our 3rd date, during our first weekend away. We're happily married (for 3 years) now.

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highlighta · 03/10/2018 15:23

Such lovely replies here, ah Willow that is just lovely to read.

So, i ask this as I am in a new relationship, we have had 6 dates now, the most recent was a weekend together. And its been nearly 3 months. And he said it, first time was after a few drinks on the 4th date, so I thought it was due to Dutch courage, but then he told me again the next day. And i wasn't sure what to reply as I was quite taken aback, and pretty guarded due to my marriage breakdown. But it was so lovely. And then he repeated it again and said that I didn't have to reply, but that I should just know it.

So this weekend I did.

And i thought is was very soon to be honest, but I see from your replies that it isn't really.

We are both late forties, so its not like we are young teens he he.

Grin
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cricketmum84 · 03/10/2018 15:38

I knew from the 4th date Blushbut waited until 2 months before I told him.
We had been texting and calling for a couple of weeks before we met, had 1 date a week and then he asked if we could do a cinema date with my 3yo son so he could meet him.
DS wanted to sit in the middle of us and when I looked over halfway through the film they had snuggled up together and DS was asleep. My heart melted and I just thought to myself I love this man. I told him a month later and he said it back. We are now happily married, been together for 11 years and I still get that feeling when I look at him.

elQuintoConyo · 03/10/2018 15:41

3 months. Still together 20 years on Smile

60sname · 03/10/2018 15:46

Four months. Coincidentally the same date that we married four years later. (Was at a gig so could check the date afterwards)

Loyaultemelie · 03/10/2018 16:21

First time he said it before we were together, he'd had a few drinks on NYE and we were best friends. Second time we were together officially about 4 months and there were fireworks in the sky

southnownorth · 03/10/2018 16:31

We had been speaking on the phone everyday for about three weeks. He then came and spent the weekend with me, he told me he loved me at the end of that weekend. I don't think I said it back straight away, maybe a few weeks later.

That was 18 years ago and he is still a soppy bugger.