I used to be a teacher but I'm long since retired. I work as a volunteer in a community venue and one of our users A has asked for advice and I'm stuck for what to say.
Keeping it vague A runs a group for children aged 7 - 11. She makes no money from it but charges enough to cover room hire and equipment. It only started up in September and she has a nice little group which is growing. However, there is a problem with one boy and she doesn't know how to deal with it.
His mother didn't tell the leader that her son has autism and has a one to one in school. A is finding her time is spent trying to manage his behaviour rather than doing the activity with the other children. He can be aggressive and demands that things are done his way and threatens to hit and does hit if he doesn't get his way.
Yesterday evening two of the parents approached her and said they would have to withdraw their children if this child's aggressive behaviour continued. Nothing creative is being produced. A feels she'll just have to give up the group because she's afraid she'll be accused of discrimination if she tells the boy's mother she cannot manage his behaviour and he'll have to leave.
I suggested she speak to the mother and say that she will have to stay with him in future.
If the mother refuses to stay is it ok for A to tell the mother he can no longer attend?