Can someone hold my hand please?

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DS was born just short of 3 weeks ago.
Within a week of his birth my episiotomy stitches had become infected and burst. This coincided with baby blues and i was a wreck when the midwife visited.
Anti biotics have led to DS and I having thrush. I am washing and applying cream to my nipples after every feed and giving him oral suspe nsion. I have also been given a pessary and a cream for downstairs. No one has checked his bottom to confirm if his nappy rash is fungal or not.
I was then getting a coldsore so was given systemic treatment
DS now has a virus so isnt sleeping or feeding well making the thrush treatment far harder.
I have taken more meds in the last 3 weeks than the the last 10 years put together. I feel guilty for letting him get a virus, we clearly exposed him to too much. Midwife due to discharge me today and I am cross that I am low. Im scared he has colic. Im so tired.
I cant take any more complications.
Thanks for reading

Get in touch with your health visitor. She will take over with the MW discharging you.

Whatever you do don't kiss your baby with a coldsore and be scrupulous about washing your hands etc, that virus can be severe in babies (I also got coldsores after both DCs, think it went with being run down).

It does get better. This bit sucks. My baby blues were awful and I broke down on my MW. DS also had oral thrush. It is very common but can be difficult.

Call your HVs, they will help and support you. Be honest with them about how you are feeling.

Thanks Fun.
The treatment for the coldsore worked, it never materialised and i have now finished the course.

Get some super strength probiotics to boost yourself post-antibiotics.

No practical advice, but offering a hand hold. It will get better!

My mantra for the hardest early/sick/sleepless days was When you’re going through hell, keep going. You will eventually come out the other side!

Thanks.
Today i am trying to work out how i balance him feeding little and often with me trying to continue thrush treatment. I would like to get him in the sling but not sure if that will happen today. I put a wash on at 8.30, who knows when i will get down to get it out

It is so hard at the start OP i know everyone says this but it does get easier. I remember it being such a shock I was exhausted, sore, had people turning up whenever they felt like.
My DD also got thrush I remember giving her treatment cream for her nappy rash as that was also part of the thrush. Maybe your DC needs this also?
I also remember breaking down on the midwife. Luckily my hv was lovely and paid me a few extra visits as she could see I was really struggling. Please do contact someone if your concerned about anything

You don’t need to get the wash out. Your job for the moment is feeding your baby and recovering, your body has taken a battering. Just sit down and have these...

How horrible for you!

We're thursh veterans in this house. Ds had loads of it thanks to lots of iv antibiotics in hospital and dd had it once in the early days. Our gp recommended treating my thrush with the oral meds the children were given, putting it on rather than the cream so it didn't need washing off at every feed.

I hope things improve for you soon x

I had thrush and it was excruciating, every time I fed dd I cried, it was awful, so I really sympathise with what you are going through. I made sure dd was only feeding because she was hungry not for extra comfort during the worst of it, wearing her in the sling actually helped as it kept her asleep for longer, rather than her sleeping while she was feeding and extending the feed (it was just too painful for comfort feeding). She was a thumb sucker anyway, but you could give a dummy or a clean finger instead of a nipple to comfort suck on.

Have you got anyone to support you? Dh? They should really be picking up all the housework and sorting the washing for you so you can rest as much as possible. If you are well rested your body will heal quicker. I agree with the advice about a probiotic too, to replace the good bacteria the antibiotics have killed off. Also, try to reduce sugar as the thrush/yeast feed on it, but make sure you have a good diet to help heal your body.

It’s a really hard time, so try to rest as much as you can. Take the baby, some drinks and snacks to bed and sleep as much as they do, forget about the jobs and everything else and concentrate on getting yourself well again.

The other thing I found really helped with thrush was to keep nipples exposed to the air as much as possible. I got one bout from ds that was so painful I was convinced I had mastitis.

We also kept ds nappy free as much as possible when his bottom was sorr from thrush. Had a bed mat under him or on my lap instead. Went through a stage of having to gently blow dry him bum too.

Thanks everyone. I havent managed a sleep today as DS has been so unsettled which has made it harder.
I am taking a probiotic and eatibg lots of veg. Unfortunately biscuits are the only thing making me feel better.

I just cant see an end to it all atm.

I also really struggle to sleep in the day, even though i want to