I can't cope with my baby anymore.

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She's 6 m. She doesn't sleep. Not in the day or the night. It's killing me. I've tried everything. White noise, co sleeping, late "heavy" meal before bed, established bedtime routine. I don't know what else there is.

When she's awake during the day shes just really high maintenance. Just whinging for no reason. Its constant. She's only haooy when I'm out. But i don't want to go out all day. It's not practical or realistic.

It's affecting my mental health badly. I get an overwhelming feeling of dread when it's the morning. I don't want to go through the day.

My DH isn't around as he's at work and in the evenings he's tired himself.

Does she bring her legs up in pain and are her nappies ok? She may have a CMPA or be teething so in pain. Many EBF babies won't take bottles so formula may not be the answer but try it.

Their sleep changes at around 4 months and if she has sleep associations (dummy, rocking or feeding to sleep) she will look for that at the end of each sleep cycle which is 45 minutes. Gentle sleep training may help - not cry it out, there are all sorts of different ones.

If she likes being out in the sling then it might be the movement she likes. Can someone walk her in the pram to give you a break?

I agree your DH has to help more. Being tired is no excuse. You are tired too. Parenting is tough so he does not get to opt out. He presumably is only working 37 hours a week. Sympathies but it usually does get better at about 6 months. Are you weaning her? That stopped my DD2 from crying so much and once she was able to sit up she was much happier.

Both mine had completely broken sleep at this age. The 14 wakings is the problem - no one can function on that, adult or baby.

We cracked it by breaking the association between sucking and sleeping. I fed her and put her down, then we made a pact that she would get no more milk for 3h. "If" she woke earlier (of course she did!) DH took over and did whatever distraction he could think of to keep her happy until the 3h was up. Then he'd wake, I'd feed her back to sleep etc . So basically he put it 2 solid nights of very little sleep, but things resolved ever so quickly and we were into 3 hourly wakings in about 48h. Then a few weeks later we did the same to stretch h her from 3h to 4h. Did similar with DS and his dummy. It was nothing like controlled crying, she was supervised, cuddled and entertained the whole time. It just took a very dedicated DH - which admittedly is hard on zero sleep - for a couple of nights.

I remember how amazing I felt that first morning, just because I've had a couple of stretches of 2 hours sleep in the spare room!

I would take her to an oesteopath, some people think its a lot of mumbo jumbo but I have first hand experience of what they can do with crying babies its like they have magic hands! My son could not sleep in the day lying down for more than 10 mins , went to the oesteopath and that soon changed. Have a google see if there is one near you, good luck lack of sleep is so awful.

How are you OP? @cookware

Op

When you say you tried CC, what did you actually do?

For me, it worked after 3 days.
Best thing I ever did.
My baby was SO much happier
As was i

IMO you should be confident there is no underlying medical issue before trying CC. As I said I think op should consider CMPA/reflux/other issues first. And i agree with the PP who suggested an osteopath, it works for some and it’s worth a try. After that I would do sleep training but there are various options, CC is one but there are others too if the OP isn’t comfortable with it.