Partner can't keep a job

[JoJoBelfast]

Hi, just need to vent.
I've been with my partner for just over 10 years. We have 2 children, 9 and 6months. My partner has been unable to maintain a job longer than a few months or just under a year in the last one. He believes that I'm being unreasonable when I pressure him to look for work or he isn't sure what he wants to do with his life.. He isn't a great help in the house either. I've worked in the same job since b4 I met him. I'm at the end of my tether, over this past decade it's been up to me to pay rent, food bills as well as everything else. He knows I struggle to keep my head above water financially. Tbh I'm in debt to my eyeballs n I've started to use a food bank to make sure I've food in to feed my children. I'm sick of all the broken promises n this never ending cycle.

You’ve suffered this for 10 years?!

Why can he not keep a job?

Swop him for tax credits

What does he bring to the relationship?

Your eldest is 9 and you’ve been together 10 years putting up with this shit. Willing to bet your eldest is the reason you put up with it

If you were my friend and had said all that to me, I think I’d be saying: you do everything anyway, if he won’t get a job and provide for his family (regardless of what his life plan was/is, this is his life right now), then he needs to go. You know you can do it alone because by the sounds of it you are. If anything you’d be better off because there’s one less mouth to feed surely? And you’d get help. Maybe if he moved out and got/kept a job for a good chunk of time, it’d give him the kick up the arse he needs.

He's comfortable with the situation as he doesn't get to worry about anything. You need to give him an ultimatum "Either he gets a job or he leaves"

Him goubf won't make a difference as you're already doing everything by yourself.

You've been a fool to have put up with this for so long. He's a lazy feckless cocklodger, and he won't change. Why would he, he has you paying his way! Just get rid of him, at least then you have one less mouth to fees.