My son has started having counselling at school. The reason for this is he gets very frustrated at school and is rude to the teachers. Low level stuff like huffing when asked to do stuff, answering back etc.
The school suggested a learning mentor first, as he is bright, but not reaching his potential but I thought it might be that he was feeling under pressure and acting out so a counsellor might help.
He’s fine at home and at all the after school clubs he goes to. It just seems to be school that’s the problem.
Anyway, he’s come home from school today very upset because the counsellor told him off for being rude (he’d stopped listening and was playing with pens).
She said he was very rude and that she would tell me he couldn’t come anymore. She basically said he was the problem and he was making his own problems.
All probably true, but to my mind she should be helping him understand why and develop strategies for coping, not be another person telling him off.
On the other hand I don’t think she should have to put up with rudeness.
My son swears blind it was just this one time not listening - even when I said I’d need to speak to her.
Now I don’t know what to think. Was she right to react like that and should I continue to send son? Or was she unhelpful?
My son was crying tonight (he’s 10 and rarely cries now so it has got to him.
What do people think? Was she right or not?