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Update...13 years and he just doesn't love me anymore

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Rachyb87 · 01/10/2018 21:20

Hi all. So I posted 6 weeks ago explaining that oh left me after 13yrs&two kids,swore he just didn't love me,then 2 weeks later told me he'd been seeing one but only as soon as we split (adamant he didn't cheat).

Well 4 weeks later and things (for me)have gone from bad to worse. He has moved I with this other woman and her 3 kids after 3 weeks,2 weeks ago he took our 2 girls to his new home. Obviously I was furious,i tried putting my foot down saying it's way to soon etc but I got absolutely nowhere so I just let him crack on,if I'd of stopped him me and my kids loose out and he would have it all easy not having to be a parent. Anyway,the start of all the split he promised me he was going to pay the rent and the bills till I was sorted with claims and student finance etc. He's only paying the rent till November,and has stopped paying the bills. Dick!. If applied for universal credit and I get my first payment at the end of the month so I am without any money till then,I don't qualify for housing benefit because I'm a student . He's literally left me and his kids in the shit. I never thought he'd stoop this low but hey ho he has. I'm dreading finding out how much universal credit I get for me and 2 kids,people keep telling me it will be buttons and alot less than what tax credits was(that's stopped now coz I'm single) I hope this gets better,I'm exhausted!!

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Sharpandshineyteeth · 01/10/2018 21:43

It will. I absolutely promise. But I can’t promise it won’t get a bit more shit first.

Imagine how amazing you will feel when you graduate and get that brilliant job that you are aiming for. Your girls will be so proud and you’ll be a strong unit of 3.

He on the other hand will be stuck being a part time dad to your amazing two who will probably resent him spending more time with kids that aren’t his and the kids that aren’t his will resent him for not being their dad.

You’ve got this 🙌🏻

Rachyb87 · 02/10/2018 09:25

Thank you,that's what I keep thinking to myself, it is shit right now and it will probably continue to be shit but I'm hopeful it will pass. I hope it happens when he realizes his relationship isn't all that great after all.

Yes my girls will come to that conclusion on their own as they get older. It will be their 2nd time going this weekend and ibwill have to smile and listen to all the fun things they did as a new big family. First time they went they had movie night sweets etc,went to the park...he never once came the park with me🙄oh and they have showered them in lovley gifts and toys...wonder if that will happen every time they go haha.

I am determined to get through this degree if it kills me...I'm doing counselling. When I have a good job at the end of it il have the last laugh.

My course,kids,lack of money and home is my main priority now. That love I had for that idiot is getting less and less each day with the way he has treated me since he came clean about her...so I guess that's a good thing 😁

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