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Do you 'click' with any colleagues?

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user1483390742 · 01/10/2018 16:06

I started a new job 6 months ago and there is not one person there that i have 'clicked' with! They are all nice enough to chat to for 5 mins about what we watched on tv last night, but there isn't anyone that i especially like!
Is it the same for most people or am i being ridiculous to be wasting time even thinking about it?
It just makes going to work a bit mundane and lunchtime is soooo boring!

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HashTagLil · 01/10/2018 16:08

Out of 60+ colleagues there are less than half a dozen that I would count as friends. The rest are just colleagues and there are two I really don't like, but thats fine by me. I'm paid to work, not socialise. Although we still have a good time working together for the most part.

Bimgy85 · 01/10/2018 16:08

Don't worry I'm the same, only 'clicked' with one person five months in despite working alongside 100 people!

Trishtashtosh · 01/10/2018 16:35

Totally get this. Used to have a job where I really clicked with a few people. It was great. Got lots done and had a good time. It made what could be quite a dry job very enjoyable.

BitchQueen90 · 01/10/2018 16:37

Nah, I don't. I get along with my colleagues and we are a good team but I wouldn't socialise with any of them outside work.

Kemer2018 · 01/10/2018 16:39

No. They're a good sort, but are always doing something or getting drunk. I can't afford to click with them.

GummyGoddess · 01/10/2018 16:43

Yes, if I didn't I would have left ages ago due to bullying from a new manager, indeed many people did leave.

whiskeysourpuss · 01/10/2018 16:44

Small team of 10 we all get on but me & my work bestie (I know some here hate that term but that's what it is) only clicked after I'd been here 3 years we barely spoke other than pleasantries before then but we had to work together on a project & discovered we had loads in common & the same sense of humour.

BobbinThreadbare123 · 01/10/2018 16:47

Nope. I don't get invited to anything outside work, but we're all pleasant and it's a nice atmosphere. I fall into an odd category anyway. Mostly men anyway (engineers). Part of me is a bit sad about it but most of me is relieved as I had a hideous experience a few years back where my colleagues decided to Mean Girls me.

Sparklingbrook · 01/10/2018 16:59

The people I click with the most at work are half my age. Small team but we all work very well together.

funmummy48 · 01/10/2018 17:01

Yes, I've really clicked with two but I'd say it took about a year before we really started to socialise together. Now we're firm friends. Give it a little longer.

Undercoverbanana · 01/10/2018 17:05

Oh god, no. That way madness lies.

redexpat · 01/10/2018 17:17

Professionally yes but I dont want to spend my free ttime with them.

PinkBuffalo · 01/10/2018 17:25

sparkling sounds similar to where I work some of the people I love most at work are my mums age.
I do get on with everyone at my work, but I don't have lunch with anyone else and we don't really socialise outside of work. Having said that, as we often spend 10+ hours a day in our office it would be awful if we didn't get on!
Just an idea OP, if you would like a closer relationship with some of your colleagues could you arrange going for a coffee or a drink after work or something?

PinkBuffalo · 01/10/2018 17:27

Plus 6 months is quite a short amount of time. I've worked with a lot of people for years and you do become quite close to some.
I wouldn't let it worry you too much

MeOldBamboo · 01/10/2018 17:27

It took me about a year, a couple of away days and a Xmas do before I found my people. And there are only a select few!!!

Sparklingbrook · 01/10/2018 17:29

I think they forget Pink, I keep having to remind them I am OLD. I have been invited to all sorts of things socially, I am so chuffed they even want me there.

OddestSock · 01/10/2018 17:30

After a couple of years I met two people I really clicked with & they’ve been from friends for 12 years now.
I’ve clicked with a few others, but they’ve left over the years.

luckycat007 · 01/10/2018 17:32

No - but I don't like mixing business with pleasure anyway.

RavenLG · 01/10/2018 17:57

Team of about 16 of us. I really enjoy the company of 1 person (and 1 who works part time, I LOVE the days she is in!) but the others, while I can chat with them all day, we dont' have anything in common and no one spends any time outside of the office together (odd occasions we do a night out etc is fun but it's usually a leaving party / xmas party / awards evening).

goforkyourself · 01/10/2018 18:08

I have one very lovely colleague that I click with. We chat about cats and vegan recipes at work then get pissed every Saturday at a local bar

JuneFromBethesda · 01/10/2018 18:12

I’ve always had friends at work. Maybe I’ve just been lucky with my colleagues. I miss it now I work from home most of the time but my colleagues and I do still manage a bit of banter via email.

tigercub50 · 01/10/2018 18:21

I would say I get on with pretty much everybody & have been surprised by who’s added me on Facebook as I was convinced at least 2 didn’t like me! A couple I have added haven’t accepted my request. I get told about social events but haven’t been to one yet as I don’t drink & I imagine there’s a lot of drinking.

DelurkingAJ · 01/10/2018 18:50

One very lovely lady but she was an interim so now I’m back to being on laughing and talking with everyone but no friends. So be it, I guess. And I meet up with my work friend every few months despite her abandoning me .

I had more friends when I was on a graduate scheme but I had more time for socialising then...

Crumblevision · 01/10/2018 19:00

A few years ago I would have said yes, and would socialise happily with them. Now, I would socialise with maybe 1 or 2 but keep the rest at arms length. There is 1 who is the most manipulative back stabbing so and so and another who truly is a Dementor. You could offer her an elexir for eternal good health and a cheque for 100 mill and she still would find something to moan about. It is utterly miserable in our office at the moment. Management have been made aware of behaviours (from more than one person) and yet fuck all is done.

Aria2015 · 01/10/2018 19:51

Mostly I only click with the odd person. I'm currently in my most 'clicky' team where we've formed great friendships but I'd say that's the exception rather than the rule so wouldn't worry too much about it. It's just luck of the draw, you don't get to choose your colleagues after all.

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