Present for a man who doesn't want anything ...

[aliphil]

... but will be offended if he doesn't receive anything!

My father is the problem. We're barely in touch; I'd go NC but 6yo DD adores him for some reason - heaven knows why as he takes no notice of her except once a year when we visit after Christmas. Anyway it's his birthday coming up (and then of course there'll be Christmas). He hates birthdays and there's never anything he wants. Can't ask my DM for ideas as they're divorced. I'm stuck, and also feeling resentful as he completely forgot all our birthdays this year - not even a card, even for DD who's his only grandchild. Any ideas?

Don't buy anything, let him sulk, stop visiting if he's that awful - your 6yo might adore him (how? If she sees him once a year) but then 6yos would probably eat ice cream and Smarties for every meal and never clean their teeth, they don't know what's best for them.

Consumable??? So chocolates or biscuits or cheese or booze?
Or let the 6 year old choose something!

I'd also just go for consumables and a nice card. Just buy him his favourite sweets and a bottle of wine, then if when he's ungrateful you haven't wasted much money. I wouldn't stress too much over someone who didn't even bother sending his only granddaughter a card though.

I really wouldn't bother.

"Oh I thought we weren't doing birthdays this year?. You didn't send a card for DD."

I’d let your DC choose something but only if you’re sure he will accept it from him graciously and not make him feel bad

Otherwise something consumable. Coffee voucher wine etc

Get your DD to draw a picture.

That's it. No card.

I'd just ignore the whole birthday/xmas present exchange, if he cannot be bothrred with a 6yo grand-daughter who adores him... He sounds like a knob.

If he has everything, buy him a bag-for-life to keep it all in.

Alcohol.

Thanks for the ideas, everyone. DD will probably want to do a picture anyway, and she won't see how he accepts it as he doesn't live near enough for a day trip visit.

Sod, I don't know how DD manages to adore him when she sees so little of him, but she talks about him a lot, and always says he's one of her favourite people. In fact she puts him above DH's parents who care about her a lot more and show it.

Gosh you are a better person than me. Card with drawing in from your lovely dd. Nothing else.

I was going to suggest a blow job but the saw it was your father Maybe best coming from your mum!!

Card and a drawing, or possibly some homemade biscuits from DD.

I'd be addressing the birthday card from DD as well, not necessarily from you.

He sounds awful, how sad for you.

Nothing, he's a grown man, ignore any sulking