pragmatically speaking... what's tbe benefit of getting married if the woman is the main breadwinner??

[seanna]

Just that really... I've seen on MN that people get married for "protection". But the way I see it in my case... My DP would get a mortgage/deposit that he would never get access to, my pension and my inheritance from parents/uncle.

Marriage is generally beneficial to the partner with least money, irrespective of sex. By the sound of it marriage would protect your dp.

To protect the status of the lower earning person in the event of kids usually. As usually one partner at least has to make some career sacrifices in order to be there for the children. Usually its the lower earner who takes the hit as their wages are less valuable to the family. Usually its the woman in that position because on average women tend to earn less than men. But marriage will protect the lower earning partner regardless of gender.

Your DP knowing that you love him enough that you want to share everything with him?

But yes, on a more practical level for you then I guess no benefit.

I'm also doing it so legally he can be my next of kin as literally I have nobody else.

Inheritance tax.

karma wouldn't it be if he inherits from me? I make 3x as much as him. And thanks to my inheritance was able to buy a decent house outright.

I married my husband knowing it protects him. He is a SAHD, and I wanted to afford him those protections. Had I not, I would be just the same as the countless men we hear about who string on their partners with no end in sight, only to shaft them in the end.

For us it was thinking about the worst case scenario.

I wanted it to be him who made the decision to switch me off if I were to be on life support. And I would do the same for him.

You're right kaniel . He's not a SAHD although we've considered it. The problem is that he thinks he's too old to find a decent job once future DH are old enough to go to school

You can nominate him to be your next of kin, you don't need to be married. If you die, unmarried and leave everything you own to him in a will then he will have to pay inheritance tax on it (if it's over the threshold that is). Do you have dc now?

No, we don't have any DC but we plan to. He's also very aware that I'm the main income earner and periodically gets down because he can't afford the things I like/I'm used to. Which I find sweet but makes me worry about our future, this is why marrying would make him see that I don't care if I'm a "Chelsea princess" as my ex used to call me and he's on just above mw.

Legal certainty and tax for both of you. You would be providing him with protection, in the way the lowest earning partner needs for future protection.

If you have a child it is administratively easier for both of you.

I'm the higher earner and was resolutely against marriage until we has a child then I felt it was easier to protect DH and DS than undertaking all the other legal documents which were needed. It was also cheaper 😁

Inheritance tax, and a small transferable tax allowance, and you won’t get banged up as a sex criminal if you make a poor choice of holiday destination and then piss someone off while you’re there.