I have known I am a lesbian since I was about 8 years old, understood it at 16 but didn’t come out to anyone until this summer when I turned 27.
I have never had a relationship or sex, with anyone at all. A few reasons but biggest is I couldn’t willingly admit to being gay. I thought for years I was maybe just not meant to have sex... Now that I have come out to myself ... since saying it it’s like a light has gone on in my head and I realise I do , definitely, find some lasses appealing and I do want to explore that!
I don’t know where to begin with things . I would love a partner (not just a hook up) but where do I look? I went on a tinder date a few weeks ago but she wasn’t looking for a relationship and it never went anywhere, little in common etc.
I’m from a huge city with a big gay scene and at least one lesbian bar but the thought of that does scare me a bit! I’m also a student so have access to an LGBT group but would feel a bit wary walking in alone I think ... is it best just to go and see how I feel? I can confidently call myself a lesbian in front of close family and a smattering of friends but beyond that I’m still wary.
I’m not very confident in myself anyway and I’m quite overweight (secondary to PCOS - I have a BMI of 40 and about 9 stone to lose). Family told me as a teen no one would ever want me being the way I look and that still sticks in my head as much as I know it isn’t true.
I think making friends , understanding myself is the way to go but where do I start? Any help at all would be fab .