Younger dc keeps 'taking' older dc friends

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Older dc is shy, quiet, serious, but caring, loyal and so dedicated to friends. Dc1 finds it so hard to make friends.

Younger is outgoing, bubbly, extroverted, makes friends easily, but not worried about having a friend a minute.

There’s no jealousy or competition between them, but my heart breaks a little...

Without fail, when dc1 makes a good friend and brings them home, friend and dc2 hit it off and dc1 ends up being left out (it is always totally unintentional). I worry for dc1, because it just goes to reaffirm their shyness etc.

Has anyone else had these family dynamics? How (did you) deal with it.

I want both my dcs to be confident , but worry that as time goes on this could cause problems/ resentment

The thing I realised very quickly is that friends are often more tolerant of siblings. So if the child objects or says anything negative it can actually turn the friend against them.
The sibling really has all the power in these cases.

The thing I realised very quickly is that friends are often more tolerant of siblings. So if the child objects or says anything negative it can actually turn the friend against them. The sibling really has all the power in these cases.

Wow, that’s a very good point. And the older one has the maturity already to keep their distance when needed and know when to back off.

I’m glad I started this thread, I’m learning a lot.