Dd1 stole beads wwyd

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I found 5 Little plastic beads in dd1 (8) pocket. They are from hobbycraft. I've tried to estimate the cash Value from the website it's less than a pound. We have been there today. When I found them dd1 got a big lecture. She was very ashamed. She's lost her iPad today and was sent to sit alone and do homework. She did it all and has been helpful and compliant all day.

This is very unusual behaviour for her. I could stop off there tomorrow and make her return them. I've never had to do anything like this before but I'm prepared to do it.

I'm very torn. Dd1 is the rule keeper of the family. Apart from dithering getting dressed she's very well behaved.

Wwyd?

A while after this has faded from memory I would suggest giving her a small amount of pocket money that she can save for larder items or spend on small impulse purchases such as beads.

Larger not larder 🤨

Without leaping to conclusions - for me you have rung a few bells for a potential hoarder/OCD - and I only say this because I have it. Your comment about 'rule keeper' does that mean she creates and also follows lots of rules? Or her comment about 'being a magpie' is she collecting and keeping lots of things in general? About the age of 8, children realise they are part of a bigger world and things start to get more stressful for them. If they do not know how to deal with this stress, they sometimes try and deal with it in other ways such as hoarding or OCD symptoms where they have some rules of behaviour they feel they need to follow - its to help them create a constant in an ever changing world. If she is not displaying signs of OCD or hoarding - please ignore my post. Its just some of the things you said made me think of this.
By the way, I think you have punished her enough too. If she does it again, she needs to take the items back to the shop and apologise.