Feeling a bit sad/nostalgic

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My wonderful sister in law had her little boy a couple of weeks ago. I went to see him yesterday and she didn’t offer to let me cuddle him so I didn’t ask. Her dc, her rules etc. And she’s so lovely, I don’t ever want to understand annoy or upset her. I do feel sad though that my baby days are done and also that if she were my sis not sister in law I’d feel more like “proper” family.

Aw, bless you. She'll let you cuddle him soon enough and it sounds as though you'll be a lovely auntie.

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask, as long as you don't hog and if she says "no" then you accept it.

I always found it difficult to ask, because I felt people would feel really awkward about saying "no".

I'd have thought you are just as likely to get a "she's not interested in my baby; she didn't even ask to hold" reaction as a "how terrible she asked to hold my baby and I didn't want her to."

In a bit we'll get a post:

My SiL came to visit me yesterday and didn't ask for a single cuddle with my new bay '

Very true
Think mostly I was just feeling a bit nostalgic for my own babies. Would be lovely if we could just revisit the past for a day or two. If only to remind ourselves that the nights weren’t much fun!!