I'm the other woman

[PinkCanary]

I know I'm opening myself to a lot of shit for this, but I really do need advice on the best way to handle the situation I find myself in.
In February this year I walked away from a 20 year relationship which was completely suffocating me. Two months ago I started messaging a guy I met through social media. (Technically he sent the first PM so I assumed he was available.) We got on great, started talking over the phone, and I shared some personal photos, but he would never send me any of him. I foolishly thought he was just really camera shy. As the weeks went on, I began to suspect that he wasn't single. Eventually he confessed that he was married, but rationalised that I was giving him something he wasn't getting from his wife.
He gave me the choice to walk away. For the first time in my life I was living in the moment and enjoying myself. So I didn't, but accepted that whatever we had wasn't actually going to progress past phone calls. While he is pretty invisible online, googling what little I knew about him did show me who might be his wife, but I never knew for certain until now.
He's been radio silent since yesterday evening then Late last night, she tried to connect with me through several of my social media accounts. I know I've done wrong but now I need to know how best do I deal with this? Should I accept her request and give her the answers she's looking for? Or is it best if I leave the situation well alone and let them sort it out without me?

I would say be honest with her.

Ok, first, good on you for at least caring enough and acknowledging she is a human. I dont think judgement is what you want from us.
I have been “the wife” and I would have paid millions to get the andwers from you. Instead I just spent ££££ talking to a therapist yesterday, and every other week.
Please please please talk to her

Talk to her OP. Some good has to come from this and you’ll feel better
in the long run if that good comes from you.

Tell her the truth and delete and block him

I think you have to be really honest with her. Either you send her one long message detailing everything she needs to see including screenshots (delete his number so she sees it's his number at the top).
Or, you answer her questions.
The latter you'll probably get a load of shit from her, which you obviously deserve, but won't help her to feel any more dignified in the long run.
Either way, I'd promise her that you will block him on everything immediately.

Please do the right thing by this woman

Thank you all. It's what I thought was the right thing to do.

You may also want to delete your online profiles, particularly things like linked in, for a couple of months too. She's going to be understandably angry, and best for you both if this doesn't spiral

agree, I would talk to her. you shouldn't have carried on after finding out he was married but you did, that cant be changed now and life doesn't always happen the way it should, and we don't always behave the way we should.

the best thing you could do now is just talk to her and give her what she needs, hopefully she will direct her anger more at him rather than you xx

I agree that you should engage with her, and block him.

Your OP was posted last week - I hope you messaged her and that things are going as smoothly as possible.

I wouldn't get into protracted dialogue though - offering her the facts (and sincerely apologising) is enough.