Mother in law problems

[lindam23]

My baby girl is 8 months old. I am having issues with my mother-in-law.

She is very overbearing and just too much to take at times. She comes into our house and starts trying to tell me what to do and how she would be doing things and criticises me for choices I make for MY daughter🤬

I am going back to work soon and she is going to be watching her 3 afternoons a week. I am dreading it! I just don’t trust her to follow our rules when we are not there. My partner has spoken to her a few times but seems to make no difference. My mum is available to watch my daughter all the time but I am only giving her to my MIL to let her have her turn.

I don’t know what to do. I’m sad enough about going back to work but it is just making me feel even worse, it’s really starting to get me down😢 I am a quiet person and hate confrontation, I don’t know what to do😭

Kids aren’t toys to be passed around. Therefore mil needing a “turn” just isn’t right.

If you don’t trust her then don’t leave dd with her. It really is as simple as that. But it does mean that you will have to endure the shit storm that follows.

Is your dp on board?

Your MIL doesn’t get to have a ‘turn’ looking after your child.

If you don't trust her don't leave her with MIL. It will be harder to stop her having her if you start letting her. If you say no to start with it you start to feel differently then you can change your mind. I agree with others she doesn't need to have a turn with childcare if you're not happy with it.

Sort other childcare. Or be prepared for a big showdown with your Mil. I had to do it with my own parents but easier paying for childcare.

I know it's blunt but it's your daughter You need to explain to her that if she changes anything you will have to start the routine all over again, tell your boyfriend that he needs to talk to his mum, she will understand I had a similar conversation, don't worry about it just make sure you say it politely.

I'm a quiet person that doesn't like confrontation honestly she won't be upset with you her being a mother herself she would completely understand, just laugh about it to her don't make it alkward.