About to lose the plot

[whyispeppainthenightgarden]

Anyone fancy a chat my children won’t sleep and I’m about to go insane this has been going on for months

Omg what age, how many and what have you tried to get them to sleep?

2 1/2 And 11 months. The 11 month is ok normally it the 2 1/2 that’s the problem been like this since she came out of hospital in July. She’s waiting to be assessed for asd and adhd.

Both in bed with me as a screams hysterically in her room to the point I’m scared the neighbors would contact ss. Tried milk all she wants is my boob. (Trying to stop her bf but not going great) sit in the dark. But she just get off the bed and runs up and down. She’s me reading to her and will only let me if she is in a good mood

It’s like a habit she’s got herself in and can’t get put I’ve tried everything to snap her out of it but. I thing seems to work. Let her lie in no nap during the day wake her up early but it’s just the same

Ds is now asleep but dd is still running up and down my room

I'd say you are overdue some professional input...have you tried hv or gp - I mean for the actual sleep part. Or is that just not a thing maybe. You must be absolutely at the end of several tethers. Do you have a partner who can help you? What about music or audio book? I'm really sorry I don't know anything to suggest but did just want to acknowledge how hard this must be!

Yeah my husbands been sleeping on the sofa downstairs since July so I can have the bed with the kids.

No I’ve not seen someone about her sleep. Seen a pedatatrion who was referred us for the assessment abs speech and language therapy coz this is what brought it all up as she doesnt communicate well

And. Thank you x

Talk to your paediatrician about sleep disturbance and melatonin. They can prescribe it and it helps the child sleep.

Oh thanks that looks like it could be something beneficial. She’s finally gone to sleep. Climbed into bed and wanted me to bf her to sleep. 👍🏻

You poor thing, can you speak to your neighbours and tell them you are going to try sleep training so they can prepare for a few nights of screaming DCs. Assume you’ve tried disengaging and being uninteresting at night and return to bed repeating goodnight sleep time, we can talk tomorrow, time to dream and grow, I love you 10000times. Im not much help I’m afraid but hope you get some help soon. Does DH give you a break at weekends?

He does to an extent but half the time they just both want bf and I end up with one hanging of each boob. We been sleeping with peppa on the tv every night and when the tv turns itself if she wakes up and I have to put it back in quickly as she goes back to sleep

And we have been up since 5

Hope you are getting a better night. Can you express milk and leave it with your DH and find a £25 a night hotel or B&B. For a break? It's hard but tv is stimulating. Can you get help to try and implement a new routine of no tv, electronics after 6pm latest and to find a quieter wind down to bed. The best advice I ever had as a new mum was that learning to sleep is a skill that babies have to learn to self soothe and go to sleep & that from caveman times we are born to be awake at night and have to learn how to switch that to day time and switch off at night. Good luck x

This sounds like a nightmare. You're doing so well.

I've not much to suggest because I have a non-sleeper too and I am like a shell of myself. A junior member of my team at work told me she was tired on Tuesday because she went to a late party on Saturday. I almost cried.

Chin up

Yes last night was slightly better asleep for 11. I understand about tv and electronics but tbh if it’s on she will actually sit down and calm zx be more than if there is not. Thanks for everyone’s suggestions