Please could someone talk me down?

[Mississippilessly]

13 days post partum. Lots of post birth complications. I am exhausted and hormonal.

I suffer from coldsores. Thought i felt tingly yesterday. Applied the cream militantly. Saw doc this morn about unrelated issue and mentioned it. He gave me prescription tablets which i started taking. He said to avoid kissing DS

This afternoon the midwife came round and i forgot myself and got my head very close to the top of his head. I cant say for certain if my lips touched him or not.

I have no blister and the tingly feeling has gone but i have freaked myself out. I am not usually anxious about health but this is serius

very hopeful bump

I don't have much advice apart from to say don't be too hard on yourself. I was kissing dd2 like crazy in the first few days home, had no tingling but woke up with a cold sore the next day. Queue furious googling and worrying from me for a few days luckily nothing came of it! The patches are great, might give you some peace of mind to have a barrier!

So worrying but I think the only thing you can do is look out for the symptoms -on NHS website and act fast if you notice any.

Just what @HollyBollyBooBoo said it's all you can really do. At 10 days PP you must be knackered so try not to beat yourself up.

Congratulations on your little boy.

From what I understand it's kissing around the mouth that's an issue?

Oh dear. I was so hoping you would tell me i was being silly.

I'm not medical and have no personal experience but we were warned about it when DS was in neonatal from what I gathered it's quite rare.

I started using the patches once I had my first cause I was so paranoid.

@spugzbunny no definitely not, any skin contact, sharing towels etc.

@Mississippilessly you're definitely not being silly. It is rare but can be very serious. Have you looked up the symptoms so know what to watch out for?

I had a cold sore when my youngest was born. It was a traumatic birth and I was also exhausted for days after. Io know I didn't kiss him because I'd read about how awful it could be, but I honestly couldn't say if i got the cold sore near him, I most probably did, but he was fine. I worried about almost everything going wrong at the time, but not that.

I'm sure your baby will be fine, just keep an eye out for symptoms.

Hopefully DC will have immunity from you if you had them pre pregnancy. I had one a few days post partum too and was terrified, DS is 3 months and so far just fine (touch wood!) and loves his millions of kisses a day. I I get a tingle I use aciclovir cream and possibly a patch and avoid kissing him. I also am very hot on anyone with a cold sore washing hands and no kisses. Try not to be so hard on yourself, you're still full of hormones and that can't be helping the anxiety, keep an eye out for any symptoms of illness and be kind to yourself

By the way, I'm not belittling the way you feel, I get incredibly anxious if I feel a tingle and beat myself up too.

Fuck. I feel hideous.

Babycenter: 'It's very rare for newborns to get cold sores. Most young babies have natural protection from their mum's antibodies, picked up during their time in the womb (uterus). This protection usually lasts for the first six months after birth.'

Also the time the cold sores are most infectious when they blister and burst. I'm sure baby will be fine. Keep doing ad you're doing, lots of hand hygiene, avoid touching your mouth etc. And congratulations on baby boy 🙂

What Ivan said. I was exactly the same as you except the cold sore did come out, twice in the first couple of months of dd's life!

With the contact you describe with no visible sore he will be absolutely fine. You know what precautions to take and you're taking them. Please don't let this eat you up and make you more miserable.

Thanks all.
I had an episiotomy.it got infected and the stitches burst. Dr put me on anti bios. After 3 days i felt odd so read the leaflet properly - they were iron tablets. Late night tril to hospital to sort it. Then actual anti bios gsve DS thrush. Then the coldsore stuff.I am exhausted trying uo leep up with it all. I have 4 aspects just with the thrush

@Mississippilessly poor you. It's the last thing you need when you're already exhausted but plow on, things will start to get easier now xx

I had a traumatic birth and came home with a huge cold sore. This was years ago so no high profile cases I was aware of at that point. I definitely didn't kiss d's as I wouldn't kiss anyone with a sore, but I definitely didn't know to take any extra precautions and nobody said anything. The hv was visiting often too.

If I was going to stress myself out over it I'd probably seek advice just to put my mind at rest.

He has woken up with this. No other symptoms, he is eating, has no fever.
But i am absolutely freaking out.

The slight rash on his cheek? Could be totally unrelated of course. Has he got a temperature?

I'd call your GP to be totally sure and to put your mind at ease.

Health visitor was due anyway - she wasnt concerned.
Thanks for your kindness everyone. How terrifying to be responsible for such a small and gorgeous life.

Those are just milk spots and newborn rash. I don’t think you need to worry unless you have an active cold sore. Congratulations- he is beautiful.