How do I word, reply to DS teacher about his behaviour?

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So teacher had to email an update on something. She also mentioned DS was a little toi chatty and disruptive to others in a couple of his classes. She will keep an eye on him she said.

Im so embarrassed...he has been spoken to and in denial. We have told him he must knuckle down and stop being disruptive it's not fair on the class or teacher...lots of huffs and puffs from him!!!! We have never has any trouble at school with him until now. It seems to be a combination of hitting 13, being moved up to tiers with strong characters in it and just appearing to be cock sure all of a sudden.

I want to reply but am so embarrassed that I dont know what to say to her

Just ask for more detail. It's not like the teacher has mentioned anything they won't have seen before. Explain whatever sanction/conversation has happened at home and ask for further communication about whether has improved/declined as time goes on.

Thank you for letting me know. We have reiterated to DS the need to listen in class rather than chat.

Teachers have seen it all before and there's nothing to be embarrassed about. The middle years can do funny things to some of the most calm and hardworking students. Some parents have called me at their wits end because their lovely child seems to have become a gremlins overnight.
Ask for a bit more information and I'm sure they'll be happy to talk.

More likely than not it'll be silly teenage attitude with a healthy dose of "but it's so unfair I didn't even do anything-guh!"

She's just keeping you in the loop. Say thank you, you appreciate that she let you know and you have let your child know that you do not expect the teacher to have to write a similar message in the future.

Just remember that she was probably quite nervous about telling you in case you reacted badly (blamed her/ defended DS). Honestly anything you can say that shows cooperation and acknowledgement of his behaviour will have her breathing a sigh of relief!

Well when I get these messages about my son 😬 I thank them for letting me know, and say that I have spoken to my son and made it very clear that such behaviour is not tolerated. I think ask to be kept in the loop so I can reinforce the message again if need be, and look into introducing punishments at home if the behaviour continues.

Can I say as a teacher that I wish more parents were like you MrsAmaretto.
Supportive parents who want to be in the loop and are keen to work together to prevent any major issues are an absolute blessing in this job.

Reply to say thank you for taking the time to let me know, I’m disappointed in him, have spoken to him, will keep speaking to him..... please let me know if he continues in this way, apologies if the class is being disrupted.... this is the kind of thing I used to say (and mean). Nothing worse than a parent who will try to defend/deny their child’s behaviour. Teachers are generally not out to get children so is just trying to help the situation and now doubt hoping that you would by kick off with her! She’s probably been putting up with it for a while before braving the email. Well done to you for being positive about it.

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