Lurker here- read a lot, never posted. Basically DH has two siblings. One we haven’t seen in years and not likely too, another lives hours away and is one sided. If we visited them that’s fine, but no way would he and family come to us. PIL equally awkward and not visited in a year, no phonecall in 5 months, not interested in a meet when we have been down their neck of the woods twice in the last year (this is despite them knowing my kids are frequently in hospital).
So....basically I’m done with them and don’t see the point in buying for these neices and nephews (6 of them) that we never see, three of which never likely to meet as haven’t yet and they haven’t met mine (who were born first and they didn’t bother with or were interested in until their kid was born a year later and lo and behold are surprised when we don’t make the effort either).
So, since the ritual exchange of birthday and christmas presents via the postal service/amazon courier and no thanks or contact from the parents is quite frankly our only link with these children, how do you go about stopping it? My eldest is starting to ask questions about these cards and presents from ‘ uncle never met’ and I suspect this year she’ll have more questions (nearly 6).
Has anyone been in a similar situation and just stopped sending . I’m so torn. I know the kids are all innocent, but the other part of me thinks why send presents to kids we don’t have a relationship with and vice versus as in honesty I’d rather they stopped buying for my kids.
What would you do?