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If you are thinking of getting a dog please.......

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GertrudeCB · 26/09/2018 07:52

Consider the needs of the breed / breeds you are getting, excercise , training etc.
In the last 24 hours I have met a couple who bought 2 adult labs on Gumtree and were baffled as to why my lab was " slim and well behaved" ( their words) and theirs were obese and hyper. They had been told by the seller that 10 mins playing in the garden was sufficient excercise 😤.
We had a good chat and I pointed out that my dog was not slim but a healthy weight and that without a couple of hours excercise a day could be an arsehole. So I am pleading with anyone considering bringing a dog into the family do your research .

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steppemum · 26/09/2018 13:12

MrsCar, I do think people get a sort of blind spot where animals are concerned. They don't 'look' unhappy, so they must be fine.

Often the same people are baffled when things go wrong

BroomHandledMouser · 26/09/2018 13:33

Precisely why I won’t get a dog at the moment.

I’ve grown up with them, and I’m so desperate to have one to join the family. And although I work from home, the children are busy, we’re busy with our company and I just don’t think I’d have the time at the moment to take it out.

So I’ve got Billy instead Grin

If you are thinking of getting a dog please.......
vandrew4 · 26/09/2018 13:34

and please don't leave them outside in a yard for 12 hours a day barking and annoying the fuck out of everybody

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GertrudeCB · 26/09/2018 13:37

Billy is lovely Smile. Yup, we waited over 20 years until we were in a position to offer a dog a good home - funnily enough I had to tell a child on the street to stop grabbing at ddog as we walked home yesterday as he isn't a toy !

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GiraffeObsessedBaby · 26/09/2018 13:39

I've had messed up rescue German shepherds in my family my whole life so certainly accustomed to the ridiculous stupidity of some owners. By no means an expert and mess up ALOT with my two now I'm an adult.

BUT I would gladly pay if they brought back dog licenses or some form or control over pet ownership to ensure that more animals get loving homes and less are puppy farmed.

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 26/09/2018 13:40

Someone up thread mentioned huskies. I can't stress enough DO NOT GET A HUSKY without doing a lot of research. Ours is a rescue and we love him to bits but he is unbelievably strong, demanding, and messier than I had ever imagined. They are very fashionable at the moment and the videos online make them look so appealing but they really are not for the inexperienced.

GertrudeCB · 26/09/2018 13:42

I totally agree Giraffe

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BroomHandledMouser · 26/09/2018 13:42

Out of interest how do you know thier from puppy farms?

Is it the price that the owner set them out? Or can you tell when you visit?

goodlordwhathappened · 26/09/2018 13:43

My two little pups are hard work. Often people comment saying how sleepy they are and how cuddly etc. Especially my beagle cross pug (rescue!). People need to know that it is not all cuddles. They are absolute menaces if they have not had two long walks a day! They are tired when we have guests because I make sure to wear them out so they snooze 😂 they do both sleep a lot but that is because they are active like crazy active when they are awake! I love them to bits and would be devestated if anything happened to them but at the same time I would tell anyone getting a dog to really think about it!

Trampire · 26/09/2018 13:46

I do agree with you OP.

I have a Border Terrier who gets at least an hour and half country walk off lead every day, all weathers. Believe me there's days when it's blowing a gale where I just don't want to go but I have to because I committed to a having a dog.

I'm having to grit my teeth at the moment because a good friend of mine has just bought a 'Patterjack' (Patterdale and JRT cross). She's asking so much advice about dog beds and treats, she's a VERY caring person but....she's taken 2 weeks off work to 'be with the puppy'. I'm unsure what will happen after that. She works full time.

I have another friend with a Cavapoo who only gets walked 3 times a week.

An aquaintence who literally never takes dog out. It's small breed and she claims it doesn't like walks but only likes to Potter in the garden. She complained to me once that her dog chews up a dog bed every month. Yes, that's because it's bored shitless!

I'm lucky I work from home - that's why we got a dog.
People often comment that my dog is nice a calm and well behaved. Well, he's tired. He's always up for a bit of frisbee in the garden though!

bluetongue · 26/09/2018 13:48

Not sure if this happens much in the UK but we have an issue here in Australia with international students getting a dog and then dumping it when they leave after finishing their degree Sad

Trampire · 26/09/2018 13:51

That's awful Bluetongue.

My Dsis has just returned to the U.K. from living in Malaysia for 15 years and it's happens there too.

My Dsis flew her elderly retriever out to the U.K. ahead of her. It cost a fortune but the dog is here now with the people who love her and very happy. Again, huge commitment.

glenthebattleostrich · 26/09/2018 14:00

We spent a year researching breeds. My absolute favourite dogs are either staffies or German shepherds bit because of the reputation / size I decided against these. When I wind down my child care business then Mabel will get a little brother or sister!

We have had our cockapoo puppy for 4 weeks now. Before she arrived she had a vet, was signed up to puppy classes, had a backup dog walker and doggy daycare. I work from home but the on the rare occasions I have to be out all day she will go doggy daycare and if I'm going to be more than 2 hours her walker will come by.

I have started getting up at 5:30 so I'm used to it when she's old enough to do an hour run on a morning; then she'll be with me all day, coming to the park with the kids, in and out of the garden, on our lunchtime walk etc. Then another hour walk on an evening and a quick half hour before bed. (Always our routine with dogs we've had before). I just need to convince her she won't melt in the rain!!!

She is being socialised with people and animals properly because I refuse to have an unhappy dog. She needs to be happy and settled so she has a good and fulfilled life.

My brother was one of the fuckwits who got a husky. 3 kids, both out at work all day and wondered why it chewed everything and was snappy. Thankfully he 'escaped'! (My dad found him a new home who could handle him. He's now very happy in a country pub with a very nice childless couple who adore him).

Absolutely agree there should be compulsory training and a license before you can have a dog.

zenasfuck · 26/09/2018 14:20

Nothing kisses me off more than people who get dogs because they want one and not because they can offer a good home

I would love nothing more than a border collie but I know I can't give one what they need physically so I won't be getting one

Instead I have two small pups who are happy with the amount of exercise I can manage physically and love a snuggle on the sofa with me when we are all worn out

Puppywithattitude · 26/09/2018 14:27

I think we should have a sticky thread in Doghouse about the downsides and stressed if dog ownership.
Some owners make it all too fluffy.
I am 1 year in of puppy ownership and even with previous experience of dog ownership, albeit some time ago, I have cried more times this year than I can remember.

MagentaRocks · 26/09/2018 14:31

My dh would love a dog but we both work full time and it just wouldn’t be fair on the dog. I do know people who work full time and have a dog, but the poor dogs must be miserable.

Puppywithattitude · 26/09/2018 14:33

*stresses of

BakedBeans47 · 26/09/2018 14:38

*There was a depressing recent thread on here where a poster was wondering if she could have a dog despite she and her OH both working full time so the dog would be left alone for 8-10 hours per day. The worst of it was that so many posters were telling her it wasn't ideal but was OK.

It really fucking isn't.*.

I agree we have 2 kids who would love a dog but I just don’t think it’s fair to have them cooped up all day even if it was only a couple of days a week due to our working patterns. I feel bad as I had dogs growing up and loved them but our lifestyle is different

Ilovewillow · 26/09/2018 14:41

I'm loving this thread and it's useful tips/advice. We have just got a Cocker Spaniel who is now 15 weeks old. We researched the options spoke to a dog trainer and have spent the last two weeks alternating working from home to make sure he is ok. From next week we will have a dog walker and I only work part time too - I'm not sure even spent this much time organising our children when they were young. It's a huge commitment but already the benefits to our children is immense and we all love him to bits. It angers me greatly when any animal is neglected particularly through ignorance.

goodlordwhathappened · 26/09/2018 14:51

One of my friends wants to get TWO puppies (cavachons). She doesn't understand why I have to leave work and not go for drinks etc because I have two dogs at home (one 4 years and one 1 year old). She says when she has a dog it will be different 🙄 I've told her that I feel very sorry for her dogs then as I feel horrible leaving my two for more than a few hours alone. And that I hope she is ready for utter destruction whenever she decides to grace them by coming home ☹️ Honestly I despair.

Yokohamajojo · 26/09/2018 14:55

I have an acquaintance (mum in school) who lives in a flat, works full time, is a single parent but with a lot of cash and a flash lifestyle (think instahun) she already has a cat but 'needed' another accessory so got herself a little fluffy white dog. I remember asking her when I first saw it weather it could go for walks yet eg. had it had all jabs etc. She said oh it came with all that so of course bought dodgily probably from a petshop and she got it at 14 weeks or something. She never walks it (her own words) it's terrified of everything and her kids treat it like a toy to be picked up, dragged around and played roughly with. I just recently say that she has just got herself a rabbit as well Shock so stupid it's unbelievable

Ginorchoc · 26/09/2018 15:03

Don’t get a Scottie unless you can ignore the eye rolling, sighing, stubbornness and sarcasm. She maybe small but also needs looks of walks, we are very similar personalities.

ThanksHunkyJesus · 26/09/2018 15:07

Luckily he’s settled and gets an eight to ten mile run each day or trots alongside a bicycle over the same distance but he still needs a couple of shorter walks too.

That's an abnormal amount of exercise. No wonder the previous owners couldn't cope. There is a happy medium to be struck!

GertrudeCB · 26/09/2018 15:18

Grin Gin.
A school friend of mine had a Scottie - I swear it was a human in a dog costume !

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DoubleNegativePanda · 26/09/2018 15:25

There was a depressing recent thread on here where a poster was wondering if she could have a dog despite she and her OH both working full time so the dog would be left alone for 8-10 hours per day. The worst of it was that so many posters were telling her it wasn't ideal but was OK.

This is exactly why although I love dogs and would love to adopt one, I don't. We are out of the house from 7:30am-7pm. I don't have the time right now to give a dog a decent life. My sister's stepdaughter has a large pit mix that she crates for hours a day. It fucking boils my blood. I love that dog, he's such a sweet boy and deserves better.

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