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I don't make life easy for myself, do I?

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AndromedaBlack · 24/09/2018 21:18

(Name changed for this.) Back story, Creepy Bastard (henceforth known as CB) had me up against a wall and was trying to feel me up in a pub in 2009. One of my friends practically dragged him off me (I dread to think what would have happened if I'd been on my own.) I reckon he was rat arsed, I however was stone cold sober.
Since then I've started working in a café, and I see CB on a regular basis. In that time he's gone from asking me out every time he sees me to being utterly vile and speaking to me like I'm nothing. I've kept quiet until this morning.
So he comes in and starts being his usual obnoxious self. I'm normally okay when dealing with arseholes, but today I just snapped and laid out what he'd done to me (but I also said something inaccurate, that just came out in the heat of the moment.) He said he didn't remember, asked me why I didn't report it (I was already going through the process of going to court over another sexual assault from another man and didn't have the headspace to deal with this too, but I didn't tell him that.) Then he said it's never too late to report it, so I said I would. I bet CB was trying to call my bluff or he has no self preservation skills whatsoever.
So I have, I went up to the police station after work and have an appointment to give my statement later in the week. I've also told my manager what's going on.
I know I really shouldn't have lost it like that, my defence is I was tired, hungry, stressed, and I've been an emotional wreck for the past few weeks because of other stuff going on in my life. I've been saying for ages I'm going to snap and when I do it'll be spectacular. I wasn't expecting this though!
Oh yes, and I've found out CB creeps on the other women who work here. I can't say I'm surprised. Sad

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WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 25/09/2018 08:39

Goodness, you poor thing Flowers well done for reporting him. I hope that he gets his comeuppance. Do you think the others at work would report his behaviour towards them as well?

Florries · 25/09/2018 08:44

Absolutely do report him but don't say anything inaccurate.

CoraPirbright · 25/09/2018 08:49

Well you might not have made life easy but you have certainly done the right thing. This horrible bastard needs his comeuppance. Well done!

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/09/2018 09:49

Of courseyou should have lost it. You had every right to. This is a bloke who sexually assaulted you may have been intending to rape you and Now you have to put up with verbal abuse from hI'm. He's a fuckin predator.

AndromedaBlack · 25/09/2018 20:36

Aww, thank you! My stomach has been in knots since yesterday, but I know I'm doing the right thing. I just have to tell the truth.

Leslie I will ask them. One of the other women he'd been perving over left a few months ago. I think the least he deserves is being banned from where I work.

Florries See above. I'll be calmer (I hope) and certainly not raging like I was yesterday. I'm going to take my favourite stuffed toy with me and that will help. I know that probably sounds silly. Blush

Cora Thank you!

babyspider Agreed, he's awful.

Thank you for the support ladies, I really appreciate it. Cake

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MacosieAsunter · 25/09/2018 20:39

Will your friends (to the 2009 assault) be witness ?

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