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Will he marry and stay with his new pregnant younger girlfriend?

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charleze2018 · 24/09/2018 20:45

this is continuous from another post? son's father is still with the woman that he got pregnant when he got out of jail. Well he is still with her and hasn't contacted me not even to see how our son is doing. it makes me angry that a woman to come along and he just turn his back on us and you me revealing information about him to her as the reason. I will admit I did give her some very personal private information about him like his arrest records from recently to 2011 and all the different kids mothers that he has and the drinking problem which she has found out about that anyway and also all his domestic violence cases against his first kids mom that she didn't know about. even with all this proof and knowing that it was still dealing with me lying to me lying to her she still stayed with him and his entertaining him and keeping the baby and he is just ignoring me. I am wondering if I was wrong for disclosing all that information to her and wondering if I should apologize to him about it after some time has passed. I will say we were not in a committed relationship we were discussing getting back together but I felt like he lied and led me on and had no intentions of getting back together because this new woman that was doing things for him financially and he didn't want to mess that up. is it crazy that I think I was wrong and that I should apologize to him for contacting her and disclosing all that information and does he possibly love her and will he be there for her kids and and just ignore all the other kids that he has. Me and her are both pregnant by him but he and I already share a child as well and have been on and off for over 9 years and hes only known her for 3 months.

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MewithaC · 24/09/2018 20:47

I'd say you've dodged a bullet!

MadameButterface · 24/09/2018 20:49

what she said ^^ is this really the best you can do for yourself? good grief

TuathaDeDanann · 24/09/2018 20:50

Never dated a man who's been to prison. Honestly there's no way to say this without sounding snobby but if my children's father had been to prison and instantly knocked up some young girl on his release, I'd be relieved he hadn't been in touch. Don't get in touch with her again, for any reason, even if your children are half-siblings. Just back away from the circus. You've wasted nine years on him, call time on this show before it's a decade. New decade.

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LanguidLobster · 24/09/2018 20:51

I had a hard time processing that (still can't), just focus on your child and your own life. Study, stability, happiness

SoyDora · 24/09/2018 20:52

I’ll give you the same response as I gave on your last post... you’re better off without him. He has 4 children by 3 women, has 2 women currently pregnant with his children, is in and out of prison and has an alcohol problem. You’ve dodged a bullet.

LastOneDancing · 24/09/2018 20:58

Do you feel it's unfair and he should be with you? Why on Earth would you want this man around your kids?!

Racecardriver · 24/09/2018 21:00

Just why? Surely it's a good thing that he doesn't want to be around you anymore?

Singlenotsingle · 24/09/2018 21:17

Surely you don't actually want him back? You can do better than that - a lying, cheating scumbag gaolbird? Just be glad he's out of your life.

RoseAndRose · 24/09/2018 21:20

Did you lose your previous thread? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3373951-My-ex-already-has-a-new-girlfriend-and-shes-pregnant-after-only-3-months

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charleze2018 · 24/09/2018 21:26

No im just pregnant and emotional and wanted new opinions

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Omgineedanamechange · 24/09/2018 21:33

Well he sounds like a prince amongst men, I can certainly see why women are queuing up to have his children.

Armchairanarchist · 24/09/2018 22:11

When someone shows you who they are believe them. He's never shown you commitment or love. He sounds like a truly awful man.

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charleze2018 · 24/09/2018 22:38

He turned on me so easily after all the horrible things he's done to me that I forgave.

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Wolfiefan · 24/09/2018 22:42

A lesson for next time? If someone does horrible things to you then leave. You are lucky get out of this relationship. Time for a fresh start ( and an STD test)

Neshoma · 24/09/2018 23:04

and you'd still have him back wouldn't you?

MarcieBluebell · 24/09/2018 23:09

Your children will feel safer and happier without seeing such a horrible man and the dynamic between you two. Set an example that noone should treat people so badly and that the right thing is to have self worth to leave.

yorkshireyummymummy · 24/09/2018 23:23

Why on earth didn’t you use contraception with him? How could you be so irresponsible to fall pregnant ( again!) by a man who has a) a criminal record with prison time b) children he doesn’t bother with by various women - so in other words he’s a feckless dad. c) a record of cheating, DV and shows zero respect for women ...........why on earth would you want someone like this to father a child with you! ?..? God, i just think it’s so selfish - your poor kids. You obviously have no self respect since you clearly want him back - god only knows why. You would be better off just cutting him out of your life completely and- it’s very very unusual,for me to say this but - I wouldn’t let him anywhere near the child/ren. Just get on with your life , stay single and stop having children with men who are not fit to deserve the moniker ‘father’. I suppose it’s hard for him to pay CM while in prison too isn’t it? Get some information on further education and look at training to do something and setting a good example for your kids. Sorry if you think this is harsh but somebody needs to say it to you. What do your mum and friends say about him and your current situation?

SuperSuperSuper · 24/09/2018 23:34

Set a good example to your DC. Be strong, resolute and self-sufficient. When you're ready for a relationship, pick someone better.

thegreatbeyond · 24/09/2018 23:52

Not helpful, yorkshire. OP - the blunt answer? Who gives a shit what he thinks or does? Have your baby and keep him out of your life. Not exactly a catch, is he?

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charleze2018 · 24/09/2018 23:58

They don't like him. They believe he's only ever used me. But its not like that he hasn't always been this way and he has done things for me and our son. He was sending me money while in jail a few years ago he served six months and while on work release and he sent over $2500 to me over the course of 6 months. It's just when hes focused on one woman he forgets about all the other kids he has. I admit he does have a problem with being faithful to one woman and has a drinking problem which is what causes him to get in trouble with the law. I am sad because I know he has good in him and hes sharing that good with her. He was still talking to me everyday prior to me sending her his police record and telling her about all the other women he jas kids with we still communicated daily and he came to see our son and did things for us. He must really like her to stop talking ro me and his son for her and this is why i am sad because he barely knows her and treated me like the one hes only knew a few months.

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