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Friendship woes (Facebook related)

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Aeroflotgirl · 24/09/2018 12:59

I have known this lady over 10 years, since our little ones used to do an activity together. Over the years we met up occassionally, always at my house, I would not consider her a good friend, just a friend. There was a social gathering about 4 years ago, I was at the venue first, and she arrived, I said hello, and she barely acknowledged me and walked by to sit with other more favourable people, just sat with her back towards me talking to these friends all the time. I felt left out, a bit like a spare part, I thought she was a friend. I found some other people to talk to eventually, but it hurt.

Since then, I distanced myself and got on with life, I do not see her at all, she is not a friend now, only friends on Facebook. She does come across as a bit of a drama lama, posts stuff like : I wish I wasen;t here, or nobody likes me. Just ignored it. So I decided to slim down my FAcebook, and deleted her with other people that I don't see. I instantly get a message "We appear to be unfriended" " "what have I done wrong" . So I explained in a private message how I felt ignored. Then I get Tagged in a status that : Some people are really nasty Aeroflotgirl. Shocking some people's behaviour Aeroflotgirl.

I am stumped, I thought this only happened to others, I have not engaged further and blocked her. Just feel unsettled.

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MismatchedStripySocks · 24/09/2018 13:04

Sounds harsh but move on. It’s her problem, not yours. Obviously wants to look popular with loads of fb mates.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 24/09/2018 13:06

She sounds very odd to put it nicely.
We can never figure out some people no matter how hard we try. Time to move on completely now and put her behind you.

Honeyroar · 24/09/2018 13:09

Just comment "yes they can. Best to just delete them." Then delete her again.

Aeroflotgirl · 24/09/2018 13:09

I know, I was trying to phase her out quietly, but everything is a drama to her. I am not going to be a part of that. It just upset me a bit that's all. I suppose People delete me all the time, but I don't go round messaging them, such is life.

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Aeroflotgirl · 24/09/2018 13:11

Unless she considered me a best friend, and I diden't realise it. I haven't seen her in 4 years.

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NonaGrey · 24/09/2018 13:12

Goodness.

Well deleting her was clearly the right move!

Other people’s bad behaviour often makes us feel upset.

LinoleumBlownapart · 24/09/2018 13:13

Oh bloody hell, you're well rid. It's unsettling when crazies put you on their radar. I wouldn't worry if you don't react she'll lose interest.

Aeroflotgirl · 24/09/2018 13:15

I know, as I have not reacted to her status, it makes her look bad. For the record I don't live my life on fAcebook, I like to nosy, but don't put much up. My baking or the odd picture of the kids.

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TreeTopTen · 24/09/2018 13:52

There is a secret FB rule book, you are not allowed to delete anyone.

I blocked/deleted someone who really hates me and actively lets me know it every chance they get, they went apeshit!

It is a strange world we live in.

Thinkingofausername1 · 24/09/2018 13:55

People used to do this to me. The school mums would add me and then ignore me when I walked past them and smiled. I got fed up with it and deleted all of them including ones I classed as friends. They would promise to meet up, then in the holidays post their amazing meet ups with other people.
I know I have less energy than other school mums but I always went out of my way for people regardless. No more. Just block and move on no matter how sad it is....

NonaGrey · 24/09/2018 15:14

I’m always a bit surprised that anyone even notices they’ve been deleted.

Most people have over a hundred friends, how do they keep track who has dropped them? It’s not like you get a notification.

Aeroflotgirl · 24/09/2018 16:08

I don't think Facebook notifies you when you been deleted and who. Or I would be seeing it left right and centre. I think she has nothing better to do than to regularly scour her FAcebook friends, and looking for drama.

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Honeyroar · 24/09/2018 17:13

I've deleted a few Facebook friends over the years. If I see someone in real life and they don't act like they know me, or if they're regularly spouting crap I don't agree with and they're not really someone I see that often then I quietly delete. I've had a few people re request or ask if I know why we're no longer friends. I think they notice because we've got mutual groups and I've posted in there, or on a mutual friend's page. I think your name shows up a different way.

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