Dilemma with other kid at school

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This might be triggering for some so apologies in advance

We live abroad, in Europe, I am not very proficient in the local language but our kids are at a local school and are more or less fluent. My older child (age 10) was talking about a girl in the same year group, describing her as 'weird' 'too touchy feely' complaining she keeps touching other people's hair / faces / picking up younger children in the playground. Have an example of this child lifting another child up, her skirt rising up at the same time and it being obvious that she had no knickers on under her skirt.

Perhaps this is nothing. My younger kid has been known to forget to put pants on once or twice. But combined with the excessive touching I am really not sure if this is a sign of something more worrying ie sexual abuse at home.

What would you think? And what would you do if anything? I'm genuinely unsure if I'm overthinking or if I need to alert the school

I would be concerned about a 10 year old with no underwear at school
Speak to School if Possible - do you have someone who can help with the language if necessary?

She may be ASD or have sensory issues. My dd (7) will not wear knickers if she thinks I won’t find out because she doesn’t like the feel of them, it drives me mad. She isn’t unusually touchy feely but other kids with ASD traits can be.

Thank you that's really helpful advice. I think I might casually enquire with another mum and see if there are any known issues (we're quite new here) but without mentioning the pants incident.