Feeling rotten with a cold but no chance to rest. Going through house renovations and looking at secondary schools for DS1 so every spare minute is spent doing that, plus work, usual kids clubs, housework blah blah.
This weekend DS2 also had two parties to go to, so it's been full on as I've been at home doing decorating, running him to the parties, coming back to the house, going back to get him and then back home.
DS2 is 6 and is a loving, cuddly, affectionate soul. He also switches to temper tantrum mode very quickly. He's ALWAYS asking for toys when we go out and has a full meltdown when I say no. I've tried ignoring him,but he just gets hysterical, acts (maybe that's the wrong word) scared as I walk away. I tell him clearly the options or what the plan is. I tell him very firmly before we go out -"no toys". But he persists when out.
And the tantrum isn't just about toys. He says things are too hard (2x tables -should he know this by now?) and has a meltdown. He'll play fight with DS1 who may take it too far, or DS2 doesn't get his way and he'll breakdown. The whining and whingeing is relentless. I hate it.
It's been like this since he was 2. It has not eased up. The only saving grace is that he's a different kid at school so no special needs. He's a handful for my mum, me, my husband and PIL.
I'm so tired of it. I stand and watch him and think "I don't know how to deal with this. Please stfu!!!" And I cry. And that's what I did today in public. Two women actually fucking laughed. He was kicking off about wanting a toy that he would pay for. There are reasons why we can't get it now (big Lego set, house renovations). He kicked off big time. I tried calmly dealing with it but he didn't listen. Refused. So my voice got angrier, louder, crosser. It had no change on him. He only stopped when I broke down in tears. I hate that. Why does it get to that stage. Why doesn't he just listen?!
I know this brain dump is long so I don't expect lots of replies but if I can just get one pearl of wisdom...
Oh and I've tried reward chart. Does not work at all. He ignored it completely.