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Going on holiday on your own when you are married . Do you think this is weird?

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Pagwatch · 23/09/2018 16:57

I’m going away for a week. Various reasons but I need a break and I’m lucky enough to be able to go.
A couple of friends have said they’d never do it as they’d hate it.
Am I strange to be really looking forward to a week with just me and some books and stuff?

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WorraLiberty · 23/09/2018 17:01

Nothing to do with being married, but I'd rather go away with someone else...either a friend or my DH.

It's not strange to like your own company on holiday though.

kaytee87 · 23/09/2018 17:02

I don't think it's anything to do with being married is it? Some people don't like spending time by themselves so wouldn't do this whether married or not.

I'd happily go away for one or two nights by myself but I have a 2yo and would miss him (and him me) if I went away for longer than that.

FreeNim · 23/09/2018 17:02

I would love it. But I do have an aspie husband and it's not always fun going on holiday with him. Having said that going alone would mean i don't have to worry about childcare, so even if I did have a NT husband, I would still like it.

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Pagwatch · 23/09/2018 17:02

Yes, I can understand that.
I work with DH so I think we are probably more comfortable being apart for a change iyswim

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Pagwatch · 23/09/2018 17:04

I only mentioned the married bit as, quite rightly, many single people could ask me wtf I was talking about as not everyone has a partner

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Pagwatch · 23/09/2018 17:06

The bit I was more interested in was how my friends thought they’d hate being alone.
I wondered how many of us would relish the solitude

I’m prepared to be an anti-social weirdo Grin

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Whocansay · 23/09/2018 17:09

I go away with friends, but have never been on my own. Sounds like bliss! You can please yourself and run things on your own timetable.

NameChangedAgain18 · 23/09/2018 17:10

I do it at least once a year, and have done it for a fortnight on occasions, when it’s been long-haul. I love it. I need lots of time to myself to stay sane.

tatyr · 23/09/2018 17:12

I think would love it, I always used to like going away galavanting by myself, pootling and exploring and pleasing myself.

But somehow now, 2 children later, I feel unsure about it. Time to myself is rare, and always crammed with all the things I've been putting off. I think I might have lost some confidence, or maybe I'm just out of the habit.

I'm sure it will do me the world of good when I do get on and do it though!

SLoisachtal · 23/09/2018 17:14

It doesn't sound at all odd to me, Paggy. We have a number of 'couple friends' who take separate holidays occasionally. Some of it's to do with their different hobbies and interests (golf, horse racing, yoga, scuba diving etc) which one partner participates in but the other doesn't - so one partner goes on holiday to do their own thing with like minded friends, or with organised groups. And sometimes, one or other will take a break without their OH. It's quite normal in our social circle.

Go ... and have fun!

farfallarocks · 23/09/2018 17:15

Sounds like my idea of bliss! I’m an only child and I sometimes crave solitude.

Coffeeandcrochet · 23/09/2018 17:16

I adore my DH and love going on holiday with him, but would also love going by myself! Earlier this year I had some annual leave booked and it looked like he wasn't going to be able to join me. He managed to rearrange things at the last minute and I was almost disappointed Wink

Butterflysprinkles · 23/09/2018 17:16

I'd love it! Do what you want when you want. I always have to take the kids with me as husband works. I'd love a weekend away. Enjoy it!

Titsywoo · 23/09/2018 17:17

I went away by myself for a few days this summer. Lots of people thought it odd or that they couldn't do it and a few people thought my DH would be offended or that I was having an affair! I loved it and am planning on going once a year from now on. I love my own company and our family holidays can be difficult (DH and DS both aspergers) and in general life my wants and needs aren't generally met so to be able to do EXACTLY what I want when I want is pure luxury!

Trumpton · 23/09/2018 17:17

I go away by myself once a year . I love it . DH is not keen on warm holidays and I love walking in the heat ! He tends to skulk in the shade and we end up walking along different sides of the street !
Just a tip ... keep your head done for the first few days or someone will befriend you !

HildaZelda · 23/09/2018 17:17

God no, I'd love it! Have a great time.

BIWI · 23/09/2018 17:17

Go! I did it 4 years ago. I was really tired and had had a tough time at work. DH couldn't come with me as he'd just started a new contract, so I had a week in Barbados on my own.

It was hell Wink

fussychica · 23/09/2018 17:18

No I couldn't do it. DH and I spend all our time together and I would be a bit lost without him in a holiday situation. I would probably consider going alone if I would be meeting up with friends at the destination or it was an activity holiday which DH had no interest in. DH went with adult DS to France for a few days last year to see the Tour de France. Though I like the cycling I had no interest in going and it was great for them to spend some time together. I probably wouldn't do it myself though.

Trumpton · 23/09/2018 17:18

Done =down !

Gah81 · 23/09/2018 17:18

Love travelling by myself. I still take the opportunity to do it now, 'even though' I am married. No-one to please but yourself: bliss. I aim to travel solo at least once a year.

ShanghaiDiva · 23/09/2018 17:19

I am married and doing exactly the same thing - going tomorrow! Happy to be on my own, but have also booked a couple of day trips incase I fancy some conversation.
My mum thinks I'm weird and that people will be staring at me as I am on my own. I care not a jot!

KnotsInMay · 23/09/2018 17:20

If you need a break, can go, and would like to go, then it would be weird NOT to go!

Some women even question going to the cinema or threatre in their own, judging by regular threads here.

I have been in week or two week holidays on my own twice, and walking weekends a few times. Really enjoyed it.

BIWI · 23/09/2018 17:21

No I couldn't do it. DH and I spend all our time together and I would be a bit lost without him in a holiday situation

I think that's really sad. And, I have to say, a bit pathetic. You're a grown woman, for heaven's sake! Why would you be lost without him? How do you manage to get through daily life?!

MrsTeachy · 23/09/2018 17:22

Not weird at all. I've been on holiday by myself twice since getting married (and once since having children) and it was wonderful. I would go more often if I could afford it! People have made comments and think it's odd, but I don't give a flying fox what they think.

BonnieF · 23/09/2018 17:25

I do this every year. DP has a very time-consuming hobby, for which he buggers off to do his thing for a few days several times a year. I don’t see why I should sit at home while him and his mates are away playing with their big boy’s toys so I go away for a few days on my own.

It’s bloody great. I can go where I want, when I want and do whatever I want at my own pace. It might not suit everybody, and some might think it a bit odd, but I really couldn’t care less.

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