Sexless marriage

[Over8]

I’ve only been married 3 years now and my wife doesn’t even share the same bed as me, instead chooses to sleep in the living room on a reclining chair. Our sex life was excellent before we married but since then maybe once every 2-3 months at best.
Why do I feel like I’ve been used to put a roof over my wife’s and step daughter heads. Feel like a complete idiot, we barely communicate anymore either. When I’m not at work all she does is go on social media looking after her daughters modelling accounts. Instead of communicating with me. And if you haven’t already guessed NO she does not work, to top it off the daughter is now home schooled so doesn’t leave the house either. Any advice?

If you’re unhappy you can leave. I’ll assume you’ve spoken to her about how unhappy you are and how unfair the situation is so if nothing’s changing you might be out of options.

What does she say when you talk to her about the situation?

And if you haven’t already guessed NO she does not work

surely she's at home teaching her daughter?

If you're not happy in the relationship, you can leave.

That’s my second problem. I don’t think my step daughter is getting any education. I can’t even bring it up in conversation as my wife looses her temper. They are both still lying around in their pj’s when I get home from work.
As for leaving, it’s not so straight forward as the house belongs to me, I bought it years before we got together.

Surely that makes it more simple? Ask her to leave?

Was there a prenup drawn re the house?

You need to ask her to leave and give her notice. I would also get legal advice.
It's time to step away. Don't be used.

As for leaving, it’s not so straight forward as the house belongs to me,

So yes it is very straightforward. She has used you to put a roof over her and her DS's heads. Time to ask them both to leave. And see a lawyer. Good luck.

Do you love her? Does she love you? You haven't explained why you sleep apart. Why are you in the bed and not the living room? It sounds like she's severely depressed and is now having an effect on her dd. It must be miserable for all of you. If you no longer love her then its best to bite the bullet and put the wheels in motion. You deserve to be happy.

So infrequent sex=being used? Either way, nobody sounds happy in your household, lets face it most women would not choose to sleep in a chair every night when theres a bed available. You should find a way to move on, but I wouldn't just put your family on the streets on the assumption she was using you, that's pretty low, unless you was only using her for sex?

Has your wife said why she's sleeping on a chair? It seems very extreme. What would your wife's side of the story be here OP?

If your wife was posting here, what would she say? What conversations have you had about all of this? Have you not spoken about it really? Or have you married an "off the tableitis" expert, in which case things never change as you never get to truly discuss the core issues?