DD looks nothing like me. Feeling a bit sad about it

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Can anyone else relate?

I know it sounds so silly because I love DD (9 months) with all my heart but she has dad written all over her. She looks nothing like me apart from our eye shape and colour. For example I've got dark eyebrows and hair, oval face; DD has round cherub face with very fair hair and eyebrows.

I don't know.. I guess I thought if I had a daughter she'd be a mini version of me 🤷🏼‍♀️ Sometimes I look at DD and think how can she even be mine, she looks nothing like me!

My two children look nothing like either of us! They also look nothing like each other!!

My elder DD is the spit of her Dad and DD2 is just like me. It doesn't upset me that she looks like him. The only reason it bothers me is that people often seem to comment on how pretty DD1 is a lot and almost never for DD2. I grew up not feeling confident about how I looked and now worry that poor unfortunate DD2 looks like me, although of course I don't show this in front of her.

Weirdly though, although my two DDs each resemble one of the parents so strongly, they also seem to have a resemblance to one another.

DD looks nothing like me. She looks exactly like DH.

MILs best friend always called her "Little Tom" when she was younger. I thought it was funny.

I wouldn't want a mini me - unless I was stunningly beautiful.

the fact that my sons look like the love of my life makes me love them more

My son is mixed race. He looks like a clone of his dad and people do wonder if he’s adopted as I’m super pale.

However, I couldn’t care less. I think you’re quite unreasonable to be concerned.

DD1 is the absolute image of her Dad. DD2 looks just like me. I'm pregnant with #3 now so we'll see who he comes out like!

(Though according to MIL, they all look like DH, even my unborn child )

The first thing the doctor said when my DD emerged from my stomach was that she looks like her father. She's 9 now and she looks just like him and nothing at all like me. I'm secretly a bit sad about it so I understand how you feel OP.
I have two sons and one looks like his father too, the other looks like my grandmother and my aunt. They were beautiful so he's a lucky boy.

I'm hoping that one day I might have a grandchild that I can see myself in. I don't know why it matters to me though.

People always say my baby boy looks exactly like me and actually it makes me feel a bit awkward to be honest! But I don't think it really matters that much, they change so much as they grow, he looks different all the time to me.

My youngest daughter (4) is not biologically related to me and looks nothing like me. I'm dark haired and brown eyed while she's fair haired and blue eyed. She's as pale as an English rose and my skin is a right old mixture. But she is me to a T. She sounds like me, uses my vernacular, reacts in the same way to things as I do and often speaks with my tone and intonation. She's just like me in so many ways!

now I've got an earworm 'running in the family' might be level42? anyway there's a line there 'and we've all got our daddy's eyes"

For us, there's no resemblance I can see except when we smile. And then we've all got the same dimple

I was disappointed that my daughter looks nothing like me. She is a female version of her father! I thought she'd have dark fine hair and green eyes but she has thick curly blonde hair and brown eyes.
However, whilst looking through some old photos I found one of me at 21. I was amazed at the likeness to my son as he is 21 now. He has my features and build in masculine form. I couldn't believe how alike we were at the same age. Same smile, eyes, hair, build, face etc. But he has a square jawline and is much taller than me. He's very active and sporty like I used to be too so has my build but again in a male way.
Also as my daughter grew up people have commented that she looks more like me. I'm genuinely happy to have such a strong likeness with my son. Makes me feel kind of proud somehow!

Not sure if this is true, but I remember reading that babies look like their fathers because it's nature's way of reassuring a man of paternity. My baby was the double of my then husband until he was around 2, and now at 7 he's the spitting image of me at that age.

You're being a bit of a tit.

yabbersnot nonsense at all, I have researched this not just made it up while posting.

No one (except you) suggested we could "only" bond with those who looked familiar, however. A complete and absurd twisting of phrase.

Why do some posters deliberately twist things to take offence? How silly.

When dd2 age 18 was 9 months she was the spitting image of her dad. There was literally nothing in her that looked like me. She was her dad all the way through. I remember feeling a bit sad about it as DD1 didnt look like me either. We were really not sure who she looked like at age 2

DD2 is now 18 she looks so much like me that a while ago my sister showed my dad a picture (taken in profile) asking him who this was and he said " Enko" DD1 now 20 looks like MIL. We have 3 photos of Mil and her sisters all taken when they were 17 and you can utterly see where DD1 gets her looks from on those. If you styled her hair similar and added similar clothes you would not know the difference. Only thing in dd2 that now looks like DH is her eyes (brown like his)

DS (16) favours me in colouring but his late uncle in build As a child he looked more like me now he is more like his uncle.

DD3 age 14 is a mixture of us both Always has been from when she was a baby She looks hugely like my late aunt (to the extend she can see it herself) yet also hugely like FIL.. Its like the 2 people have merged.. kinda nice.