Attracted to someone I work with

[Confused1681]

I’m in a relationship. I would not want to jepodise that at all. However I cannot get someone I work with out my head. I think there is a mutual attraction and we get on great but I could of misread that. He does have a lot of banter with me and said on a recent night out I was a great catch. He is in a relationship too. Both have strong feelings about cheating and how bad that is, recently discussed as an office affair came out with colleagues.

I’m irritating myself and need to stop thinking about him. Any advice? I’m thinking just distance myself and I think it stems from low self esteem and someone gave me a bit of attention. I would never act on it if I was put in that position.

Somebody said on a similar thread recently that you should try to imagine what it would be like after the initial attraction when that lust has gone. Eg leaving toilet seat up, farting in bed, etc.
If that doesn’t work then try some distance.

That’s actually not a bad idea. I have no idea why I am like this, is really bothering me and I feel really bad for it. I started the distancing thing but to be sure it wasn’t obvious. Luckily I am not office based daily so that helps. Disappointed in myself for being like this.

Crushes are a real pain in the arse, even when you're in a position to act on them they make you tongue-tied and blushy. Stupid human brains.

I just keep busy and let them wear off - they're usually strong for a couple of months then fade out. Just in the last gasps of getting over one at the moment... workplace, yes.

Use the extra randiness to delight your partner. No harm in that!

I’m so annoyed I feel like this so yes it’s a pain the the arse. When he said I was a catch I could feel that made me happy.

I am hoping it wears off quickly it’s distracting.

So he wasn’t in today when I was or yesterday and I was disappointed.

What is wrong with me