What age would you expect this?

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When would you expect someone to start sending their own christmas/birthday cards and presents to family members instead of with their parents and younger siblings?

When they love in a separate home in my experience

When they are earning their own money.

With us it was when we left home for uni. Once I had an allowance I was expected to buy for immediate family (ie those in the same house). But we didn’t live locally to any other family so expectations were lower.

I did when I was 8yo.
Before that DM/Df bought the presents, wrapped them and told us to wait and see if we asked what we were giving.
I saved every bit of money I could over a year to do that (didn't get pocket money) and loved doing it.
My siblings didn't until they left home.

My DC are expected to choose and pay half from when pocket money starts, which was from when they start school. They wrap it themselves too with mixed results.

DD1 has just turned 23, earns but is saving everything and is really busy. She has for few years bought for the family she lives with but theres no way I want or expect her to be buying anything for extended family yet and so just put her name on anything I have bought.
There has apprently been a few comments though that they are unimpressed and expecting her to be doing it herself.

Immediate family, as soon as they earn as really. Extended family, I don't think it needs to happen really or else it can just get too much, a present off the family is fine. Perhaps once she has her own family and the rest of the family are buying for her husband and children it would then be appropriate?

I get that she's still living at home and it's great that she's saving hard, but I'd definitely expect to be buying my own cards at 23.

I'd say I was probably 19 ish when I started buying them myself (now 25).

Maybe I can get her sending her own cards but it just seems a bit pointless when we are sending one anyway, just a waste of her time and money. It wrong to me when I'm signing cards from our family with the younger kids to be excluding her from that, if she had a long term partner and/or kids then it would be from their family but for now she's still living with us.

Who is moaning? I think it's fine if she's still living at home!

My 6&7 y olds choose and write their own cards to each other and to us. We buy them though and I just write their names in to 'family' cards to wider family members. I didn't start sending my own cards to grandparents, aunts and uncles until I was about 18.

There has apprently been a few comments though that they are unimpressed and expecting her to be doing it herself. tell them to jog on. She's still a member of your family and household and it's not a problem at all if you'd rather just send a card 'from the house' as it were.

YY Summer we buy presents/do cards between siblings and to parents too, but for wider family it's mostly just one card/present.

To grandparents I wanted to do it as soon as I could. Assorted aunties etc. when I left home for uni.

My aunt still does this. She has 4 adult children, one of whom is married with 2 kids. We will receive a Christmas card this year that she has signed from her, my uncle, all 4 adult kids, daughters husband and daughters children. And yes, everyone thinks it's batshit.

If she’s living with you it doesn’t matter what age she is to be included in the family card/present. Once she is living on her own it is up to her who she sends too and personally I wouldn’t bother with sending extended family cards and presents if I was her as it can get expensive and a pain in the arse to do. We only send stuff to immediate family here