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My 5 year old escaped from school!

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saffyBoo · 21/09/2018 14:51

I'm fuming. This morning I dropped my ds off at school he's in reception and the teacher on the door acknowledged him and I said bye -whatever you say to kids love you etc and as I was getting into my car a few mins later he came running down the path to me! I'm fuming with the school. He managed to walk past the teacher on the door who was so busy talkig to parents she didn't see him leave, get out two other gates and into the car park. I'm so annoyed because a lot of parents are going into the classroom, fussing over their kids, standing in the way of the class door etc not leaving the inside of the class untill they're practically thrown out. I just think drop the kids off and leave them..let them be more independent and find their own pegs etc. I matched him back into the class where his main teacher was mortified and really shocked that the assistant teacher didn't see him leave. Sorry rent over

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Nothisispatrick · 21/09/2018 14:54

That’s really bad. I’m amazed another parent or member of staff didn’t see him. At my school parents aren’t allowed in the classroom just to the door, there’s really no need for it. It creates chaos.

Pebblesandfriends · 21/09/2018 14:57

I'm not surprised you are fuming. Terrible safeguarding. They need to review that, ok so he slipped past the teacher but to get through two gates?

PassMeTheHaribosAmego · 21/09/2018 14:58

I’d be cross too .
This should be a massive learning curve for them
What are they putting in place to stop this happening again ?
Glad your son is ok

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Troels · 21/09/2018 15:46

Scary. I hope they can figure out a way to keep him safe.
I did the same thing first day of reception, age 4, followed Mum home, she turned and saw me at the end of our road.
The teacher started locking the class door after that, she didn't do it for long.

Booom · 21/09/2018 15:51

When you speak to the Head if they try and insinuate bit is your child's fault in anyway absolutely lay down the law with them. This is what happened to us. They only listen properly when I pointed out how lucky they were we haven't gone to the press or to Ofsted

wallyfeatures · 21/09/2018 15:51

Mine was out on a forest day and took it upon herself to cycle back to Nursery. Public footpaths all the way, ditches etc.... Alarm only raised when staff back at nursery spotted her and rang the forest group to ask were they missing anyone? It was a good couple of km and she was missing for probably 30 minutes. I sort of get how pissed off you are!

Theg00dwife · 21/09/2018 15:58

This is a major safeguarding issue. I hope you've spoken to the HT.
I'm sure that as soon as the parents have all left (and it can take ages!) that all gates are closed but this should not happen in the interim. They need a new system as that one doesn't work. 5 year olds do things like this. I bet you were fuming.

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 21/09/2018 16:00

The school will be putting processes in place now to ensure it never happens again (if you're in the U.K). I once looked out of the staffroom window and saw a small boy climbing over the school gates and sprinting off down the road in the middle of a busy lunchtime; nobody had spotted him. Thankfully we were able to ensure it never happened again but schools take escaping pretty seriously.

Starlight345 · 21/09/2018 16:04

This is the. First post I have read after reading a post on fb children were been dropped at school gate to go to class. Took to class by teacher , parents were out raged .

I would be upset if it was you too.

PavlovaFaith · 21/09/2018 16:12

Oh my god, the Head would have my guts as washing lines if I let that happen. I've had the odd child run after their parent and I've always managed to stop them but that's her point of being on the door in the morning. Not to mingle with the parents.

DabHandWithAAllenKey · 21/09/2018 16:15

It can happen so easily and so quickly. I agree that parents should drop and run for this reason and OP will probably (hopefully) see a change in procedures next week.

At the same time, school security is often designed to keep people out rather than children in and you do need to reinforce with your son that he must not do it again.

ineedaholidaynow · 21/09/2018 16:53

if the gates are still open for parents to come and go, how do schools monitor them? Trying to think how things were done when DS was at Primary School. Don't remember any teachers at the gates

hmmwhatatodo · 21/09/2018 16:53

This is exactly why parents need to just drop and go instead of taking so long, blocking doors so teachers can’t see properly if a child tries to escape. Parents then get angry when doors are closed promptly and they start banging on the doors to be let in, not understanding why it’s important to be on time. Schools can’t win.

CarolDanvers · 21/09/2018 17:03

The school will be putting processes in place now to ensure it never happens again (if you're in the U.K).

I really wouldn't bet on it. When my child escaped his school they did and said everything they could to minimise it and every conversation was them sliding about trying to pass the buck. I wrote formally to the HT and Governors in the end, copying in the LA, only then were measures put in place.

liquidrevolution · 21/09/2018 17:15

My 4.3 year old left the classroom on monday instead of waiting to be taken to the after school club. She was returned the the classroom after 10 minutes of standing in the corner of the playground looking sad because I wasn't there.

I haven't kicked up a stink tbh as it was her first day at the after school club and she was sensible enough the stand in the spot I stood in the week before.

FrangipaniBlue · 21/09/2018 18:36

Kid in reception class at my DS school crawled underneath the fence at lunchtime and walked the 1.5miles to his grandparents!!

School hadn't even realised until grandma rang them Confused

They tried to hush it up and sent out arsey letters about parents discussing school matters on social media.

Do not let them minimise it!!!!!!

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saffyBoo · 21/09/2018 21:08

When I took him back in to the class the main teacher started saying to my ds "how naughty are you? You must not leave the classroom" at the time I was a bit shocked and just said how disappointed I was they had let it happen. But yeah ... She did try to blame him. I don't think it was his fault it's was his second week at school. I'm just bloody glad i hadn't driven off! Stupid assistant was paying attention and let.him slip out. I'm still so angry.... We're told we have to send our babies to school and I blooming well expect that they are looked after properly! The head sent out an email today telling parents they're not allowed in anymore WinkGrin

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