Help me break up with my hairdresser with minimal upset.

[pugchops]

I know in the grand scheme of things, this is not a big problem, however I have worked myself up.

My hairdresser is a mobile hairdresser, however, I go to her house to have my hair cut and coloured. I have known her for a few years.

I like how she does my hair, but it's her manner/behaviour that is the problem which has been getting increasingly worse, yesterday was the final straw and I now don't want her to do my hair.

She has several dogs which in itself isn't the issue , I grew up with dogs and love them. But she allows them to jump up at me without doing anything to stop it. I have said several times ' no , don't jump up at me, get down.' She just ignores it.

Yesterday her youngest dog was very excitable, I crouched down to give him a brief stroke and he did a few little drops of what I call an 'excited wee' on the (tiled) kitchen floor.

My hairdresser then said quite loudly ' you have MADE him wee!' I was shocked because I didn't make him do anything. I offered to mop it up, she said 'i will do it.'

When I'm having my hair done she will often stop midway to let the dogs out and /or to stop them play fighting and as a result my appointment takes much longer than necessary.

I pay her full price and go to her house because she finds it easier. I hate confrontation and want to avoid any unpleasantness, but I don't feel comfortable with her anymore.

Just don't make another appointment?

If you have already made the next one text her and cancel and don't rearrange.

I just wouldn't make any more appointments. What an unprofessional person.

If she asks why, say you've decided to go for the salon experience again.

Oh God, that's sounds nightmarish! Just don't make another appointment (or cancel by text as suggested by PP) and don't give her another thought. She doesn't sound very pleasant.

For now, just don't rebook and go elsewhere. She may well notice but you don't need to say anything. If she directly asks just say you wanted to go somewhere with less dogs! It's a business transaction, and I don't know why you would even worry about it. It's not professional to have customers around to your house and not provide a comfortable environment. You are entitled to spend your money where you want.

Sounds like she should have a poodle parlour not a hairdressing career!!

Just don't contact her again. If she contacts you, you could always say you've developed a bit of a dog allergy.

That said, I can't think of anything worse that sitting in someone's kitchen getting a haircut . The salon experience is what it's all about!

I have a similar problem, only for me its kids not dogs.
Mine has a toddler and theres always a houseful of kids playing whilst Im there, she often stops to give them drinl/crisps/ potty time etc
I have stopped going.

You could punch one of the dogs. She probably won’t want to your hair anymore then.

Thank you for your replies, I text her to cancel my next appointment, but she has been texting offering me her next available appointment times!

I know I just need to grow a back bone.

i would go back and say i will text you when I have 5 mins to look at my diary. thanks. That way the ball is in your court and hopefully she will not contact you as you have said you will call her....

Why do you feel bad? She is not your friend. She is a hairdresser. If she texts you again just ignore it. Go somewhere else, where you'll feel more pampered. Ask friends for recommendations.

You could say you've been given a voucher for somewhere else? That would buy you a bit of time for her to get used to the idea. Then make up another lie to make it easier for you both?

Just say you have a lot on and will be in contact if you want to book something

I would just ignore the texts for a bit - you can tell a white lie if you need to. Just say you have a few personal things going on at the moment and will get in contact with her again when you know when you are free.

Then try out new hairdressers - but don't bin this one off completely yet until you find one you like!

I have made that mistake before and had to go grovelling back....

You don't ever have to actually ell her you aren't going back - just don't re-book and then hide from her in the street forevermore

I would just text back and say that travelling to her house is no longer convenient for you. What's the point of a mobile hairdresser if the hairdresser isn't mobile?!

You've developed a sudden allergy to her dogs?
Not all dogs.
Just hers.

I'd text back that you like how she does your hair but that you feel the dog's behaviour does not make for a relaxing or enjoyable experience. And then block her so you don't see any replies! Or just block her anyway.

Text her back to say 'Thanks for everything you have done but I have decided to go to a salon from now on.' Just ignore any further texts.

Or 'Thanks, I don't want any further appointments ar the minute. I am having a re-think about my hair and what I am going to do with it'. Ignore any further texts.

Just say you're growing it long

The allergy is good

She might offer to come to yours tho

She sounds like a nightmare! Just ignore and don’t book any more appointments. Are you likely to bump into her while out and about?

Ignore the appointment texts, or just reply ‘tnanks’ and be done with it.

If you want to put your point across, reply and tell her why you won’t be going back.

Just say 'thanks I'll get back to you.'
Then don't.

I had this issue a year ago. The dynamics changed and I felt off balance. There was too much drama building up. I thought getting your hair done should not be stressful like this! I went through the motions. Made an appt as if all was ok. She came to my house and I got about 20% below salon prices. I thought, my water, my lekkie etc. I texted her and said " I wouldn't be able to keep the appt. Something's come up for that day ". She never got back to me. Made me feel better. She must have been getting as fed up of me as I was of her.

At the end of the day, it's a business arrangement.